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rp44_ Bristol, RI

SEE THE TRUTH

Thank You everyone for your prayers about my work situation and abusive relationship. My Union steward wants to meet management without me..so I don't know the results yet. HOWEVER, A NEW FRIEND OF MINE (2 or 3 mths) TOLD ME SHE HAD SEEN MY ABUSER WITH ANOTHER WOMEN. HE'S BEEN CALLING ME A LOT ETC. AND LATELY I HAVE BEEN TALKING TO HIM ON THE PHONE HOWEVER, ITS NOT ALWAYS A GOOD CONVERSATION. THIS FRIEND OF MINE WAS PARKED NEXT TO HIM WHILE HE WAS PUTTING GAS IN HIS MOTORCYCLE. SHE KNOWS 100% and she is also a christian. I CONFRONTED HIM WITH IT ONLY BECAUSE IT'S VERY EASY FOR ME TO TURN TOTALLY AWAY FROM SOMEONE THAT LIES TO YOU IN THAT WAY. HE DENIES IT AND GOT VERY MAD ABOUT IT. I TEND TO BELIEVE THE FRIEND MORE ONLY BECAUSE I HAD CAUGHT FRANK IN LIES BEFORE. MY PRAYER IS THAT I WOULD SEE HIM MYSELF WITH THIS PERSON IF IN DEED HE HAS BEEN DOING THAT. I SHOULD BE RELIEVED AND FEEL BAD FOR HIS OTHER VICTIM BUT IN ORDER FOR ME TO MOVE ON QUICKER SEEING IT WITH MY OWN EYES IS ENOUGH FOR ME TO RID MYSELF TOTALLY OF HIM. I HAVE LOST A LOT OF FEELING FOR HIM ALREADY BECAUSE OF HIS BEING MEAN TO ME (YELLING AND ACCUSING) I PRAY THAT WHEN & IF I DO SEE HIM WITH SOMEONE ELSE I WILL BE ABLE TO LET HIM KNOEW I KNOW SO HE CAN STOP RUNNING AWAY FROM 1 LIE IN HIS LIFE. I AM HURT BUT HE HURTS ME MOR BEING WITH HIM...THANK YOU...I WANT TO SEE THE TRUTH WITH FRANK AND I CONTINUE TO ASK FOR PRAYER IN MY WORK SITUATION. THANKS EVERYONE..YOU ALL ARE TRULY A BLESSING.. PRAISE GOD AND MAY HE BLESS ALL OF US ON THIS WEB-SITE THAT ARE PRAYING FOR ONE ANOTHER AND BEING PRAYED FOR, EVERYONE THANK YOU JESUS ALLELUHA AND AMEN

Update - about 1 year ago:

Thank you for your continued prayers and support. As of now, My letter of warning was knocked down from being in my file for 6 mths instead of 1 to 2 years so it is good news considering. It shouldn't have been there at all but 6 mths is a lot better.My postmaster has still insulted my intelligence in front of co-workersby making snoddy comments or remarks (Like telling them don't do that you'll confuse her and Rhonda cannot do 2 things at once and Don't talk to her, Rhonda cannot talk and work at the same time (The person was only saying Good morning and how was your weekend. So many people talk a lot or smoke endlessly throughout the day and I cannot even say 12 sentences. About my Relationship with FRANK: Since he seemed fine,I had invited him to get together with another couple. He really did not want to go..so he ended up making it miserable for everyone but mostly me. I told him to just go with us and enjoy yourself & have fun. He responded with "he will have a good time but he didn't know if I
would". I drove and tried to get Frank in on conversation because he was quiet the whole time. I knew he was building tension and mad. Anyway he ended up only saying negative things to me and took off on his own when we got to our destination. He was very mean towards me when he met up with us while he had a smirk on his face. I ended up crying while he was very cold & still mean on top of that. He ruined the whole night. After that I was strong enough to stay away from him. However, a week later he tried to call me and be nice. He wanted to go with me on my walk. I allowed him to go with me. He wanted me to kiss him etc. He had been out riding his motorcycle before this. He said he had just gotten out of church . He had somewhat of an arrogant way about him while telling me he misses me etc. I was still hurt from the week before and did not have it in my heart to hug him right away. I wanted him to acknowledge what he did to me was mean & that he hurt me very much. He ended up turning everything around and told me he's always been good to me and that most guys wouldn't put up what he puts up with w/me. All this escalated..I just wanted him to have some compassion. Instead he was cruel with a smirk. I had to get away from him. He yanked my arm real hard like out of the socket and was yelling at me..He started calling me all kinds of degrading disrespectful names and accusing me of disrespectful things.He threw the flashlight he had given to me in the water and thre my keys down so hard that he bent the post office bulding key in a 90% angle. I wanted to walk alone he made me hold his hand. He started doing the Dr Jekyll and Hide thing back & forth. He told me he wanted his pictures. As I went into my apt. to get his pictures, he waited outside. I brought him his pictures, he asked me if I wanted the frame. Once, I went back inside, he called the Police on himself. He then called me to tell me to come down because the Police saw him & wanted to make sure I was alright. He made it sound like they came because they heard us..which wasn't true since I said nothing and told him not to make a scene & I will give him his pictures as I approached downtown bristol from my walk (I live in this little city on top of a resturant). I found out because I asked the police why they came. I didn't tell the Police everything he did because I was so upset I couln't remember eveything plus I wasn't physically hurt, I was caught off guard. I mentioned the flashlight & the cop said Frank told him already about that & said it was his (He had given it to me months ago) I didn't know about the bent key which he said he wished he had thrown all my keys in the water. The Police told us to stay away from one another for the night. I think that Frank wanted me to try for a restraining offer so he could try & make me look bad. He called the Police to protect himself. He is very clever and manipulative. Within 1 hour after the Police left I suspended his phone line. He's on my Family Plan I went and bought another phone so I now have a cell for TX and for RI. I went to the Womans Resource Ctr thursday night as I always do and they told me he is very dangerous because he is a Master Mind Manipulater. I need prayer that the LORD will take this man out of my heart and out of my mind. Before we met to power walk he left loving messages and they sounded so sincere but I know a man of God would never say all the filthy things that came out of his mouth. I have been trying to stay away..My heart and my head need to have the peace of giving him to God and if God brings him back as a Godly man then Great..I need the Peace of letting go so I can move on.

Update - about 1 year ago:

Thank you for your continued prayers and support. As of now, My letter of warning was knocked down from being in my file for 6 mths instead of 1 to 2 years so it is good news considering. It shouldn't have been there at all but 6 mths is a lot better.My postmaster has still insulted my intelligence in front of co-workersby making snoddy comments or remarks (Like telling them don't do that you'll confuse her and Rhonda cannot do 2 things at once and Don't talk to her, Rhonda cannot talk and work at the same time (The person was only saying Good morning and how was your weekend. So many people talk a lot or smoke endlessly throughout the day and I cannot even say 2 sentences. About my Relationship with FRANK: Since he seemed fine,I had invited him to get together with another couple. He really did not want to go..so he ended up making it miserable for everyone but mostly me. I told him to just go with us and enjoy yourself & have fun. He responded with "he will have a good time but he didn't know if I would". I drove and tried to get Frank in on conversation because he was quiet the whole time. I knew he was building tension and mad. Anyway he ended up only saying negative things to me and took off on his own when we got to our destination. He was very mean towards me when he met up with us while he had a smirk on his face. I ended up crying while he was very cold & still mean on top of that. He ruined the whole night. After that I was strong enough to stay away from him. However, a week later he tried to call me and be nice. He wanted to go with me on my walk. I allowed him to go with me. He wanted me to kiss him etc. He had been out riding his motorcycle before this. He said he had just gotten out of church . He had somewhat of an arrogant way about him while telling me he misses me etc. I was still hurt from the week before and did not have it in my heart to hug him right away. I wanted him to acknowledge what he did to me was mean & that he hurt me very much. He ended up turning everything around and told me he's always been good to me and that most guys wouldn't put up what he puts up with w/me. All this escalated..I just wanted him to have some compassion. Instead he was cruel with a smirk. I had to get away from him. He yanked my arm real hard like out of the socket and was yelling at me..He started calling me all kinds of degrading disrespectful names and accusing me of disrespectful things.He threw the flashlight he had given to me in the water and threw my keys down so hard that he bent the post office bulding key in a 90% angle. I wanted to walk alone he made me hold his hand. He started doing the Dr Jekyll and Hide thing back & forth. He told me he wanted his pictures. As I went into my apt. to get his pictures, he waited outside. I brought him his pictures, he asked me if I wanted the frame. Once, I went back inside, he called the Police on himself. He then called me to tell me to come down because the Police saw him & wanted to make sure I was alright. He made it sound like they came because they heard us..which wasn't true since I said nothing and told him not to make a scene & I will give him his pictures. As I approached downtown bristol from my walk (I live in this little city on top of a resturant). I found out because I asked the police why they came. I didn't tell the Police everything he did because I was so upset I couln't remember eveything plus I wasn't physically hurt, I was caught off guard. I mentioned the flashlight & the cop said Frank told him already about that & said it was his (He had given it to me months ago) I didn't know about the bent key which he said he wished he had thrown all my keys in the water. The Police told us to stay away from one another for the night. I think that Frank wanted me to try for a restraining offer so he could try & make me look bad. He called the Police to protect himself. He is very clever and manipulative. Within 1 hour after the Police left I suspended his phone line. He's on my Family Plan I went and bought another phone so I now have a cell for TX and for RI. I went to the Womans Resource Ctr thursday night as I always do and they told me he is very dangerous because he is a Master Mind Manipulater. I need prayer that the LORD will take this man out of my heart and out of my mind. Before we met to power walk he left loving messages and they sounded so sincere but I know a man of God would never say all the filthy things that came out of his mouth. I have been trying to stay away..My heart and my head need to have the peace of giving him to God and if God brings him back as a Godly man then Great..I need the Peace of letting go so I can move on. Also, to not be jealous and hurt if he has been seeing this other girl for 3 mths. as I've been told true or not.
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DGC
DGC Chicago, IL

Dear God, we ask that you protect Rhonda and thank you that you acted to soften the work situation. Most of all, we pray that you would keep her safe from her abuser - please help her to remain emotionally invulnderable to his repeated manipulation. Cause him to stay a physical distance away from her - keep her safe at all times. Help her to surround herself with trustworthy people who can check in on her and form a hedge around her that she not be in a vulnerable situation. More than that, we pray too for Frank that he learn to respect others and stop his abusing. Please lord, change his heart to one of flesh that will feel for your children. Thank you for keeping Rhonda safe - we praise you for your care, and implore you to do all that is required to make her secure against emotional or physical abuse. In your son's name we pray.

cju
cju New Jersey, USA

Lord Jesus I ask you to please heal her pain and her situation. I ask you to please let her union rep believe her side and let the difficulty be worked out in her favor. I ask you to remove all negativity and pain and obstacles in her life. Take the blinders off of her eyes and heart and grant her guidance wisdom strength discernment courage and clarity. Fill her with your love and faith and please show her the good person she is and that NO ONE should be allowed to hurt humiliate and abuse her. St Jude st anne st anthony and mother mary please pray mightily for her. Please bless her with the job situation to be resolved, this bitter woman who is her boss to be removed, with the finances she so needs and to remove this man from her life. Please lead her to get counseling and support. God Bless. If I may suggest: I have been in the same position you are in. You are a wonderful person you are the Lord's child and He does not want you to stay with someone who by your own words is an abuser. I pray that Frank will get help, but you continuing in this relationship with him is doing nothing but bringing you down and putting you in danger and enabling his bad and cruel behavior. It helps neither of one of you. I know that is difficult and painful,but continuing in this pattern is much much worse. I strongly urge you to go to a battered women's shelter/support group, get counseling and go to support groups. You need to heal from the damage he has done and you need to learn why and how you got to this place. You owe it to yourself to get help and Know I am praying for you. May our Lord deliver you from this trial soon. Please take the first steps and get some help. take care amen

KMH959
KMH959 Ohio

Dear Sister in Christ,
I am praying for you as I type this, that the Lord will grant you strength to stay away from your abuser. They are GREAT charmers and con artists. I was married to one. Being lonely is truly better than being with am abuser. May God give you the wisdom to make wise choices!

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jai2
jai2 New Orleans, La.

My precious sister in the Lord...You Have Seen The Truth..Frank who you refer to as your abuser has caused you to seek shelter for a year in a woman's shelter...and you had to obtain a temp . restraining order against him...Frank has SHOWN you who is was then and now.. ...That doesn't mean that he has to stay that way...but until he recieves help for his imability to control his abusive behavior ...and respect you as the Child of God that you are...any "relationship" with him would be toxic and possible fatal...I know that you love him and want a relationship with him..BUT AT WHAT COST? God didn't create you to be disrespected or abused...Nor did He create Frank to be an abuser...NOTHING...you can do can help Frank...EXCEPT TO CONTINUE PRAYING FOR HIM....Help has to come from within him...HE HAS TO SEEK GOD...he has to acknowledge his need for help for his behavior and seek professional help to teach him strategies and new techniques to interact with others/you in a positive and non-abusive manner... Put this into God's hands...release it to Him...Father God I ask in the name of Jesus that your daughter see what you need for her to see...and to pull back ...resting in Your presence and the knowledge that You dear Father are in control...of this situtation ....only if she allows You to be..I pray for Wisdom, disernment, clarity and understanding. In Jesus' name I Pray...AMEN!

jai2 - about 1 year ago: I also contiune to lift you up in prayer for your situtation at work...You my sister are a blessing...and you are BLESSED!
jai2 - about 1 year ago: Dear Lord I lift my sister up to you today...praying that she will have a day filled with peace, strength, hope and Joy in knowing that You are at her side!...In Jesus' name I pray...AMEN!