UPDATED AGAIN - 5/10

Since the site doesn't work properly for me at home, and I've been busy at work, I need to post this as a new prayer, rather than doing an update (for those who are unfamiliar with the background to this, just read my other prayers).

I don't know all the details (since she doesn't tell me directly herself anyway), but she's still in the same place. i.e. based on what I know has always happened, she has yet again believed his empty promises to change and forgiven him. I know that forgiveness is good, but that doesn't mean you continue to let yourself be abused! You forgive your abuser for their sins, yet either they get better (stop abusing you) or you move on to someone else. It should be in the past and you forgive the past, but you don't let yourself continue to be abused in the present,
however she is letting that happen.
She has finally admitted to herself that he is emotionally abusive (other people already knew this, but she was never ready to admit it herself, until now). This realisation was triggered by him losing his temper (not unusual) so bad he punched the wall. He had never got physical like this before (though others knew this day was inevitable, since he's so controlling), but instead of seeing this as him getting even worse, she seems to see it as a one-off thing. :-( It scared her, but not enough for her to realise where this is heading (which is where people have been telling her for ages that it's heading). i.e. it hasn't occurred to her that it could happen again and it may not be the wall that gets punched next time!

As I've said, her friend C was punched by her boyfriend, yet C forgave him and is still in that relationship (despite the fact she has another male friend who adores her and would never treat her that way if she just gave them a chance). B has said she would never forgive any guy who punched her, yet her friend C did, and they both have so much in common I wonder whether B wouldn't ultimately do the same thing, despite what she says now (as I said, she tried to convince C herself to leave that relationship, and was frustrated that she didn't, but doesn't see that she is only one step behind on the exact same path - it's already become physical, it was a wall this time.....).

As some of you already know, she asked for prayers to trust god. I didn't get into this at the time, but I know her well enough to know that she has a different understanding of that to you and I. You and I know that sometimes in life there are challenges that are part of god's plan. It is up to us to be strong and come out the other side better for it. However, god also gave us free will - free will to choose whether to follow his plan for us or not - and sometimes we get obstacles in our life not because of god's plan, but because we're NOT following god's plan. It's a sign that we are on the wrong path. Not only is B in a bad situation that pretty much everyone warned her against right from the start, but her health issues continue to get worse and worse (so prayers for her health are also needed). Those familiar with Louise Hay and similar will know what I'm talking about (she is familiar with Louise Hay, yet she is seeing this as simply a health issue, rather than a spiritual sign that she's in a toxic situation that she's not meant to be in).
What I am praying for of course, is for B to have the faith in god that if she gets out of this situation, then things will be alright - she doesn't have to stick with him to find happiness. Knowing her I'm sure she wants the faith in god that if she STAYS in this relationship that things will work out. This is despite all the signs that this will never work out. She is seeing the negativity of it as a challenge from god, rather than seeing it as a sign from god that she's on the wrong path. As I said before, I KNOW she has had signs to go a different path - I've even been there sometimes when she's been told, and other times she's told me about them - but time after time, when things get worse with him, she just stays there and hopes that things will get better one day, despite the fact that all they ever do is get worse.

I am now EXTREMELY concerned for her well-being - her health, and being physically safe. She is choosing to stay with someone who has now become physically violent (fortunately only with a wall SO FAR...). As some of you know, I am hopeful of a reconciliation between us (I don't even have a temper, and she has acknowledged that), but regardless of whether she gets with me again or someone new, she needs to get out of this abusive relationship. He never changes, he never gets better, he only gets worse (as others expected of him right from the start when they found out about his controlling ways). I love her and want her to find happiness, where-ever that may be, and she certainly doesn't (and won't) get it from him. She just gets yelled
at, treated like a slave, etc.

Please keep praying for her to get up the self-esteem needed to walk away from him. If enough of us pray for her, then hopefully finally she will get up the strength and courage to stand up for herself once and for all. She has had signs that there are greener pastures (she's a beautiful person, and could easily find someone else, yet the poor self-esteem she has from the abuse she suffered as a child lets her think that this is what she deserves), if she could just trust god that this is true that she can find the happiness she deserves, true happiness, elsewhere.

Thank you.