I have reconnected with an old college friend that I had a crush on way back then. 13 years went by (and a failed, abusive marriage) and we have found each other again. We have dated for a few months. I really feel he is the perfect mate and the perfect father for my 3 kids (11, 8, and 7). (Their father hasn't seen or spoken to them in a year.) Please give me the wisdom to know if this is the man that you have sent to me. I want to tell him how I feel, but I am fearful of losing him. At the same time, I want him to be the one and am afraid it is simply a want and not your desire.