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Tribredan
Tribredan Vancouver, WA

2/23/08 Please help me Lord. Where did I go wrong?

Today did not go well, Lord. Dany spent the weekend with his children and new girlfriend. He says they are just friends but then why is she planning on spending more time with my children the next time he has them. I feel sick to my stomach. Why is his heart so hardened to me, Lord? Where do I go from here, Lord? Do I take a stand for my marriage or just consider it over and wait for the trial date? Dany does not seem interested at all in a reconciliation. He still blames me for everything. He believes he is in no way at fault. Even though he is and has committed adultery. What is your will, Lord? I can't deny it, I still love him. I want the person he used to be to come back. I secretly hope and pray for that every day. Am I being a fool, Lord? I pray that he will tell me again that he loves me and how special and beautiful I am. I fear I am never to hear those words spoken from Dany again. I need your guidance Lord. I need direction. I just want to be happy and at peace again. I want my children to be happy. Please hear my prayers, Lord. I ask for these things in Your name Jesus. Amen!!

Update - 5 months ago:

I got papers in the mail today that confirms Dany hired another attorney for the divorce and a trial date is in the process of being set. Lord, am I to believe you want me to divorce Dany. I cannot force him to stay married to me if he hates me so much. What am I to do? I feel as if my only option is to go along with the divorce and protect myself and the children as much as possible. Why, Lord, are some marriages restored and not others? I want to take the path You have laid out for me but the bible says You hate divorce. I am confused. Please give me clarity, Lord!!! Amen.

Update - 5 months ago:

Dear Lord,
Can I be honest with you? I want my marriage restored. I feel like the more I open my heart to God the more I love Dany and am able to forgive him. If this is Your will please make this happen. Please find the tiny piece of Dany's heart that still belongs to me and make it big so he cannot deny it. Keep reminding Dany of our family, our beautiful children, our home. Please make this life seem irrestible to him. Please hear my prayers, Lord. Amen!

Update - 5 months ago:

Dear Lord,
I see no light at the end of the tunnel. Dany believes that I have put him in the spot where he is today. I did not ask him or force him to leave. Am I to believe that he shouldn't be helping to support his children? That it is okay for him to just up and leave and not have to worry about what happens to us financially? How is this all my fault, God? How can we overcome this? He will never forgive me. Where did the love go? Is it gone forever? I should be the one who is so angry and all I feel is sadness. Please help me, God. I need you. I can't do this by myself. What do You want for me and my children?

Update - 5 months ago:

Dear Lord,
I left Dany a message stating that I love him and want him to come home. He did not even respond. He has not seen his children in over 2 weeks and has no plans to see them. He claims that he still cares but what does that mean? He doesn't do anything to show he still cares. I feel pulled in two different directions. One to start a new life without Dany and just get through the divorce. The other to continue to pray for marriage restoration and fight for our love. I do still love him. What is Your will God? What is Your plan? Please tell me, I am listening. I invite You to take over this situation and give me Your direction. I ask these things in Your name Jesus. Amen!!
P.S. Please remove Shawna from Dany's life. I think she is making things worse. I know he doesn't love her but is staying with her out of convenience and being scared of being alone. She is an obstacle for us reconciling.

Update - 5 months ago:

I am having a rough day today, Lord. I am feeling very sad. I miss Dany and what we used to have. Please give me a chance, Lord, to work on my marriage. I know that it is up to Dany but please soften his heart towards me. I really miss him alot today. Please take away my sadness. I ask for these things in Your name Jesus. Amen!!

Update - 5 months ago:

Dany ended up calling but like always somehow he ended up making me feel like scum. I reach out to him and he treats me as if I am no better than the trash outside. Lord, what did I do to deserve this? I am willing to accept consequences for my actions but I don't even know what those actions are. Why does he despise me so much? What am I supposed to be doing with my life right now? I need some guidance, please. I am begging You, Lord!!

Update - 4 months ago:

Lord,
Please convict Dany's heart. He was here today and stayed for a few hours. We talked about alot of things. I beg Your forgiveness Lord for not being the best wife. Dany says he cannot forgive me right now. I never meant to cause any pain or hurt. I am sorry if I didn't express my love enough to him. I truly am. I beg You Lord for another chance. Dany's heart is so hardened to me. I have also been so hurt by Dany's actions. He says he was forced to find another woman since I didn't show him love. He says he can't trust me. I have never cheated or betrayed him. Please open his eyes and heart to me. Give him the courage to try one more time. He says he is scared that things will not change. He is not willing to chance it. He does not believe or want to be with me anymore. He says the love and any and all connections are gone. Is that true Lord? Are all the feelings gone? Is there anything left You can work with? I pray that there is. Please Lord turn this impossible situation into a possibility. I am begging you. I ask for these things and Your guidance Lord, in Jesus' name. Amen.

Update - 4 months ago:

Dear Lord,
Tomorrow is Valentine's Day and I do not have my husband. I am trying to stay positive and keep the faith. Please show me if this is what You want me to do. I sent Dany a card wishing him a great day but I am not sure if he will even care. I am trying to do the right thing but sometimes it seems like it doesn't matter. Are You working behind the scenes? Does Dany still love me? I have so many questions but no answers and no clear path/direction. Some days it is very confusing. Please be my guide, Lord. I look to You for the answers. Amen! God Bless everyone on Prayabout and I hope everyone has a blessed and loving V-Day.

Update - 4 months ago:

We go to court on the 27th. We had a big fight today. He is allowing his girlfriend to buy things for my children that say "I love you". She doesn't even know my children. I am sick to my stomach. I don't even think it matters that I pray. Dany has changed. His heart and soul are beyond fixing. He has no remorse for his behavior or actions. Everything he has done he has some how turned it around on me. I feel like I am going crazy. Maybe it was a mistake to marry him and have children with him. I don't know this person he has become. I am at a loss as to what to do. All I can do is defend myself. I am backed into a corner. Maybe I should give up hope of reconciliation. I am not sure that I even love him anymore. He is out to destroy me and I can't look the other way anymore. It might be Satan influencing him but Dany is still choosing to do the things he is. He already admitted that he does not care what hurts my feelings and he wishes that I would just die. Then he wouldn't have to pay any child support to me because he would get the kids. How can someone say those things to someone that he used to love? I don't know anymore.

Update - 4 months ago:

We go to court on Wednesday. I pray that God will provide me with what I need. I want to be awarded the house and enough money to maintain it. Lord, please don't make my children and I suffer through this. We did not want this. I will accept whatever You deem appropriate. I am just tired of fighting him. When will the truth come out? When will Dany see the situation for what it is and quit blaming me for everthing? I need you Lord. This has been pure hell.

Update - 3 months ago:

We went to court. The divorce has been finalized yet but it will be. There is no going back any longer. What was once there has been destroyed. I no longer want to be married to this man. He is not the same guy. I have met someone else that I want to get to know better. I am sorry, Lord. I would have fought the battle if Dany was willing to fight also. He is not. I can't do it by myself. Please allow me and this other man to get to know each other better. I just want love in my life and a good role model for my children. That is all I ask. Please provide that for me, Lord. I ask these things in your name Jesus. Amen!!

Update - about 1 month ago:

My divorce still is not finalized. I am still single. Not much has changed. I have lost faith in relationships. People are selfish and only care about themselves. I have no idea what to pray for anymore. My prayers are never answered anyway. I am thankful that me and my children are healthy and that we have a home to live in. We are not wanting for food or clothing. Thank you Lord for that. I just wanted my children to grow up in a loving home with two parents. I guess that is too much to ask for.

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anim2007
anim2007 Finland

God bless you today, tomorrow and always. Anitta

DR48
DR48 Antelope Valley, California

Dear God, please restore Tribredan's faith in relationships. I ask you to please either return her husband to her and fully reconcile them or that she able to see the good in the relationships she does have and know that if he does not return there is someone better in store for her. Please comfort her and her children and bring them joy. I ask this in the name of Jesus Christ.

DR48
DR48 Antelope Valley, California

Dear Lord, please bless tribredan in her new relationship and please comfort her and her children with confidence in their new life. Please let this relationship be fullfilling and lasting and true. I ask this in the name of Jesus Christ.

raiza
raiza Los Angeles

Lord,
Bless this nice family,remove all his bad feelings,we pray in Jesus of Name Amem.
Raiza and Rick

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anim2007
anim2007 Finland

God bless you and your family. May he fill your needs and give you peace and happiness abundantly. Blessings!!

Standingwithyou

Dearest Lord, as our friend is weary, I ask Lord that you fill her with hope, strength, peace and reassurance.
Jesus, she is on a bumpy path, and has been so, for some time now, Lord hear her cries, as I stand with her and pray for her.
Lord touch the children, take the heavy burden and pain away. Lord touch Tribedan right now, and give her love that only you Lord can give. Lord she needs to stand, and say nothing, not fight anymore, and just let you have your way, for then, miracles will happen. Lord its hard to for us when we have so many concerns. Dear Lord, I stand with her right now, our friend here on this site, who is going through a form of persecution. Lord talk to Danny's heart; cause him to remember the Love he shared with here, cause him to be unsettled with loving conviction for what has transpired, through this Lord, as he is stirred up inside, where you are trying to work upon his heart, may be so, until he wakes up to the truth. Bring the truth of it all to Danny. I ask Lord Jesus work now, please for Tribies sake. Hear her cry, for she is a good woman, just wanting to be loved and have a faithful partner (she wants her Danny..) Lord we ask for a miracle in Jesus precious name. Amen

DR48
DR48 Antelope Valley, California

Dear Lord, please help Tribredan to be strong and be guided by you. Please direct the outcome of the court and give the judge understanding. Please comfort her and her children during this time. I ask this in the name of Jesus Christ.

Aska
Aska Beograd, Serbia

I know how you feel. I pray for Danny to see how foolish his deeds are, and how empty is this girl he spends so much time with. May he understand where his heart truly lies and may he return back to Tribredan. I wish for their love to heal and for arguing to be forgotten. may everything be perfect. Blessings

jpuck
jpuck Dalton, Ga

Dear Lord, I pray for my sister Tribredan and this trial of which she is suffering, yet did not make. I pray lord for a wall of thorns around Dany so he may lose his way, and others lose interest. In the name of our Lord Jesus, I rebuke the enemy and all demons that are attacking this family. Remove the veil of spiritual blindness from Dany Lord, and heal his eyes of the heart. Lord I pray you remove the hearts of stone from this couple and place your heart of flesh within them. Place your new spirit in them Lord and grant them repayment for the time the locusts have taken. Till and sow their land dear Lord and turn this desolate land into a garden of Eden, so that all nations around them will know that you, Lord Jesus, have rebuilt what was desolate. I pray in your name Lord Jesus, Amen.

Harley Rider

lord god please heal this persons heart and mind. ease the pain, bring healing and all that is needed to survive.

people have free will as you showed me lord. you allowed my wife to cheat on me, dump on my family, lie, cheat, steal and destroy my life in many ways and have no remorse.

the enemy is at work and we know that you let people do what they will -- even when it is not right.

watch over this woman and her children. don't let them hurt any more. bring friends to help and allow this to end quicly and without more truama.

Brooke1981
Brooke1981 Kansas

He is the one that is wrong not you. Don't give up hope, I have been through the exact same thing. If he is bad to you he will end up being bad to her. They will not last. Then he will wish he was better to you because your relationship can not go away because of the children. You should record your phone calls. Then when he tells you to die and things you should file a police report and he will look bad to the judge.
Good luck!

Dear Lord please bless this women and her children. Please open the eyes and heart of this man and the other women. In Jesus's name Amen

DR48
DR48 Antelope Valley, California

Dear Lord, please comfort Tribredan and bring her hope. I ask this in the name of Jesus Christ.

anim2007
anim2007 Finland

Dear God bless Tribreadan and her kids.
Amen

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pray4ourmarriage
pray4ourmarriage Rockwall, TX

tribredan, know you, your husband, your family, and your marriage are in our prayers. I pray that the Lord will convict his heart. I pray that the lord will lead you to love, even when he is being unloveable. Lord you told us not to return evil for evil. I pray that you will guide good godly people to minister to each of this hurting family. I pray that tribedan will see you and know she is loved and not viewed in the manner she feels she is viewed by Danny. I pray that each of them will be able to look at the other through your eyes. Lord we know, God hates divorce, he menat marriage to be for life. Lord you have given us the command to forgive, as the Father forgives us. Yu do not ask us to do anythign you have not given us the ability to do. I pray that tribedan will lay these problems and the foot of the cross, and not try to pick them up. I pray for an increase of her faith, and I pray the full armor of God upon her, Danny, and their children. Lord, center us in your will. I pray that she will know that You will take care of everything in your perfect timing. You will carry her through this and your promises are real. I am claiming victory and standing in the gap for her. heal and restore this marrinage, bring them all closer to you Lord.

in the name of Christ Jesus, I pray - amen

DR48
DR48 Antelope Valley, California

Dear Lord, please guide Tribredan through this time and let her see your will in this situation. Please give her strength and comfort and hope. I ask you to please reunite this young family and strengthen them. I ask this in the name of Jesus Christ.