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Burgandy

I need help with my self esteem (maybe a miracle)

I have had soooo many problems in my life that have dealt with emotional abuse, phyical abuse and other kinds of abuse. I deal with depression and always feel like a failure.

MY mom taught me I was a failure and never good enough for much of anything. Growing up, my dad was an alcoholic and along with that came the physical abuse. My mom never drank, but did her share of damage of physical and emotional abuse over many years, and took over where my dad left off after... their divorce. I have siblings and they had some of this abuse as well. I moved out into a house with a man 25 years older than myself, (who I later married) who I thought was going to treat me right, 20 years later I am recovering from the abuses of that relationship too.(he and I are now divorced and 3 teenagers later) I am seeing a wonderful guy and I am afraid he is going to not want to be with me, because I carry too much stuff with me (emotionally) He has never said anything to incline that, but it seems I am destined to not be happy. His (my boyfriends) last boss flirted inappropriately with him and he thought I was jealous because "she didn't mean anything by it" She said many things and had many actions I didn't appreciate and I argued with him to ask to her stop. He said he could not because it was his boss and he did not want to stir things up because I was insecure. This went on for a year and a half and I said little to nothing because he didn't feel that this was a problem. She moved away at the end of August of 2007, and her scars still hurt me and I get sick to my stomach when I hear her name and I have developed a deeper hatred toward myself because of her actions. One day last year I cried for 10 hours really hard because I could not get my point across to him (my bf). I am sure I have many scars from everything combined in my life. I get upset if my bf talks about others who he once wanted to date....long before he and I have been together. I think I have a ton of issues to work on and need prayers because I can no longer do this alone and pray alone about trying to help myself feel like I am a worthy human being in this world. It seems my life should start to be better and not so sad. I have sooo many things I am working on and not getting to far. I hurt inside for many reasons... Please pray for me AND others who have suffered domestic violence and feel like I am feeling.

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Update - about 1 month ago:

Just wanted to Thank all who have prayed and are praying for me... I am still feeling sorry for myself. I have approx. 40 years of emotional hurt etc. Again, just wanted to say Thanks for taking time to pray for me.

Update - about 1 month ago:

I am still feeling really down and can hardly get out of bed unless I positively have too! I do what I have to get through the day. All I want to do is hide in the corner and be invisible.

Update - 14 days ago:

I am working so hard at not feeling bad, but I am not so sure that it is working. Things are manifesting in the form of MIGRAINES!

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Into_the_Light
Into_the_Light Germany

Please God, guide dear Burgandy to the insight that there is a failure in her -thinking that you would create somebody less than perfect, somebody like a failure. Fill her spirit with deep acceptance, assurance, love for herself and let her spirit nourished by the deepest embracement of love and approval, a heart filled with joy and harmony and give her soul all grace and peace within so that she can always feel like being your deeply wanted perfect child so that all her distress and discomfort will be soon only a hazy memory of a distant past, thank you, Amen

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petcats

Would you Please Leave a Prayer at Into the Light Kathleen

petcats

Dear Burgandy, How are you Feeling I pray you are Better and that God is blessing you Amen. Love, Kathleen

Into_the_Light
Into_the_Light Germany

Hi dear sister Burgandy, of course still praying for you, just dont write much because this Internetcafe isnt exactly the cosiest one, too be polite*grin
hugs,prayers,Gods Bless to you and all loved ones

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Burgandy - 11 days ago: Many thanks for your candles and prayers. Please know my prayers are with you as well.
caroy
caroy East Troy, WI

How are you today? Hopefully, it is a good day! Have your migranes have gotten any better. You are in my prayers. God bless, carmen

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Burgandy - 11 days ago: My migraine is still bonding with me. I don't want to go to the doctors and weigh in. I know I have gained weight, because I eat through my issues.
SCSunny
SCSunny Dallas NC

Lord You hear the cry of this heart and I am praying and agreeing that You will answer this prayer and give the desires of the heart as You promise in Your Word. You will make a way where there seems to be no way. In Jesus name. Amen
2 Corinthians 4: 13, 14, 17,18
13We having the same spirit of faith, according as it is written, I believed, and therefore have I spoken; we also believe, and therefore speak; 14Knowing that he which raised up the Lord Jesus shall raise up us also by Jesus, and shall present us with you. 15For all things are for your sakes, that the abundant grace might through the thanksgiving of many redound to the glory of God. 16For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day. 17For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; 18While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.
Psalm 116:8, 10
8 For thou hast delivered my soul from death, mine eyes from tears, and my feet from falling.
9 I will walk before the LORD in the land of the living.
10 I believed, therefore have I spoken:
I speak healing, restoration, renewal, being made whole in mind, body, emotions, and heart, and all and any circumstances I speak God’s Word that will not come back void.
Jeremiah 33:3 3Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and show thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not. 8 8And I will cleanse them from all their iniquity, whereby they have sinned against me; and I will pardon all their iniquities, whereby they have sinned, and whereby they have transgressed against me
Psalms 37:4,5 4Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
Isaiah 43:19 19Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.
1 Corinthians 10:19 13There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
Heavenly Father Your Word is so sweet to my ears and comfort to my heart. I love You and thank You for all Your mercy and grace that You shower on me each day. Give me strength to be a better person, wisdom to make right decisions, and love for all my fellowman and to do what I can where I can. Bless me that I might be a blessing and enlarge my territory and keep me from evil. In the sweet name of Jesus. Amen

Burgandy - 11 days ago: Thank you!!!!!
AuntSherry
AuntSherry Harrison Arkansas

Lord I ask you to come into burganty's life. Lord I ask you to give her peace and to heal her broken heart. Lord heal her mind of the past. Give her strenth and let her be happy. Lord I ask that you heal her of these migraines and set her free. Devil I rebuke you in the name of Jesus. Lord be with her and fill her heart with your loving grace. In Jesus name. Amen

Burgandy - 11 days ago: Thanks for taking time away from your family needs to pray for me.
petcats

Hi Burgandy, Just wanted to say Good Morning and I hope you have a nice day. May God bless you with all his Loving blessings Amen. Love, Kathleen

Burgandy - 12 days ago: Awwwwwwwww Thank you Kathleen! Thanks for cheking up on me. :D
petcats - 11 days ago: Anytime, We must stick together after all, We Love Chocolate! Love, Kathleen
Burgandy - 11 days ago: Thank you Kathleen!!!!! :D
mr_dan
mr_dan NM

I think both of you should leave the chocolate....Just kidding!! I can understand you Burgandy, when we grow up with mean parents, we tend to bring everthing that was done to us along when we grow up. My Dad was a Corporal high rank in the Army. After he came back he made us grow up like little soldiers. He never revealed any soft side to anybody. He would tell us we would grow up amounting to nothing. I realized that he was like that because he was in the war and I really think that he suffered fom PTSD. He gave himself up to being a workaholic, which was better than an alcoholic I guess but not much. Anything with ..holic in it is not good. Anyway, he would be on our butts about everything. If we didn't excell in eveything he thought we should. This went on for years, then gradually subsided. But the hurt feelings and lack of esteem grew up with us. We rebelled during our teens, which I now think was wrong and stupid. I couldn't understand why it was that I was always in a bad mood. I worked a lot too. But there was always something missing. My mother on the other hand was an angel. She talked my Dad out of taking off his belt and smacking us many times.
I had a brother who developed diabetes. And my Dad started to change his way (a little). He was not as mean and insulting as before. But he would have his days. I forgave him of everthing as I grew up. But nothing changed until I gave my life over to God. At first the devil seemed to attack us from all angles. I backslid for a time because I did not feel that I was Christlike at all. But eventually, I came to understand that I was better off trying to be with God in my life than without him. But the point is that I know by experience how all the anger and resentment can turn inward as you say. It comes out in the form of migrains, bodyaches, and you name it. It can even lead to really bad diseases like cancer and stress related high blood preassure.....The key to being free of all these things is to Forgive.. When we do not forgive it seems like we always have a knot in our stomachs. We cannot stand even the smallest hint of a bad remark or anything else. we tend to shut it all inside us and then it comes out in explosive anger, and other ways. We must forgive to be free. Jesus said, .."forgive us as we forgive those who have sinned against us.." it is easier said than done. I know. But the good news is that it can be done. And we can be free. A blessed wonderful freedom that will keep us in God's grace and Spirit. I pray dear Burgandy that you can understand and ask God to help you forgive. I went through a very awful time in my life unnessesarily. I don't want you to go through something like that.
Father God, I ask that you guide Burgandy to be able to forgive from the heart as You have forgiven us. Great and Mighty God bless her with Your unshakeable Love and Peace. I pray this in the name of Jesus Christ Our Lord AMEN!!......If you wnt to talk or anything Burgandy, you can email me at hawkman624@yahoo.com. I really do understand where your coming from. Your friend, Dan

Burgandy - 13 days ago: Awwwwwwww Dan, Thanks! I get so caught up in my own stuff and thought I was waisting the time of others. Thanks for the heartfelt response! It means a lot to me!
mr_dan - 12 days ago: No your not Burgandy, there are many of us who genuinely care about you. And we want to help you anyway we can. May God bless you . your brother dan.
Burgandy - 11 days ago: That means a lot to me Dan. I don't want to burden others. I have too many issues. I am really down on myself. I stay in my apartment sometimes because I don't like dealing with others. It seems every time I deal with others, I am getting hurt. The migraines give me an excuse to hide. Anyway, thanks for all of your kind words and encouragement.
petcats

Well Dear Sister, I suffer Migraines also lack of sleep, skipping meals, stress and chocolate. Although I'll tell you right now, I'm not giving up chocolate. Because every now and then you Just need some! Am I right? Dear Sister, You are much to hard on yourself. When will the people who did these things to you own It! Don't be Afraid you are so worth Loving and God and I know that. May God lift your Sorrow and bless the prayers of your heart. Amen. Love, Kathleen

Burgandy - 13 days ago: I hear you, I am not giving up chocolate either! It doesn't seem to be a trigger, unless I am in denial. I suffer from all the things you suffer from! How is your dad doing? I pray he is doing well! Have you found ways to deal with your migraines that help? Take care!
petcats - 13 days ago: No You are lucky. Avoid people who add stress to my life! {Big Smile} Dad suffers everyday. But he has such love for my mother that it will crush her soul when he goes home to God. I pray she will not follow him. But I have to prepare for the worst. That's why I pray here. To try and help others. So Take a long bath, light some candles put on Your favorite Song and just rest your mind. Love, Kathleen
Emil
Emil Rosenberg, TX, USA

Dear friend: I approved your answer to Hoperestored a little earlier, and wrote her a note and a prayer. I told her I would share it with you, too. I hope it might give you a flicker of hope. May God bless you and help you, through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Here's the message:

Dear child of God: First of all, God is love, and knows you're going through a very difficult time. Cling to him, continue to resist the urge to hurt yourself (you're doing well), and don't be afraid. I know you must say to yourself that it must be easy to just say that, but I have to remind myself sometimes, too, since sometimes I too am afraid.

As a child, I was bullied and abused (thankfully not by my family members), and such abused changed me. But the day came when I had to put it behind me, and I started praying for all those people I simply hated. And the hate and bitterness began to fade. Also, after the abuse, I grew up and became a respected man, but one who will stand up for the weak and defend them. So, in closing, I can say I have been able with God's help to use my abuse to help others. May God bless you profoundly and be with you every step of the way. May you also be able to work this out with the help of God. Through Jesus Christ our Lord I pray. (I am going to send a copy of this to Burgandy since I just approved her response to you and think she might want to read it too. I'm here for both of you.)

somaiah
somaiah hyd

praise the l;ord sister .god is with u '' the scripture says , 'man cannot live on bread alone,but needs every words that god speaks,'' (matthew4:4)..god is with u amen

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onelmichele
onelmichele Roseville,Michigan

God tells us to carry each others burdens :) Take care of yourself too Burgandy, and try reading some Max Lucadoi've reccomended his books to my mother,grandmother, and closefriends and all of them really like him too. Im currently reading a book by him called a love worth giving, all about God's love for us, that one may be good for your too. & theres abook called Captivating by stasi and john eldridge, its all about God pursuing a woman's heart, and deals with differnt things that women go through such as abuse, self esteem, accpetance etc. Your requests are not silly, and you're in pain. You shouldnt have to hide it, just release it all to God, he's waiting for you to surrender .

Praying for you :)

onelmichele
onelmichele Roseville,Michigan

Precious Lor I lift up my sister Burgandy who is carrying so many heavy burdens Jesus. I pray you can come into her heart and give her a revelation. I pray you can continue to draw near to her and comfort her as she deals with the emotional wounds of her past.I pray Lord that you can help Burgandy live one day at a time, and begin to forgive others, and herself. Wash away her guilt, anxiety, fears and replace these feelings with hope and love, Jesus! I pray Lord that this woman can feel the love you have for her, and is overwhelmed by your grace. Jesus she is such a kind and considerate person, and she desreves to feel this way about herself. I pray Lord that you can help build up her self esteem, and that she sees herself through your eyes Lord. May she find comfort and peace, and may you restore and strengthen her relationship. In the precious name of Jesus, Amen :)

Ps- I dont know if you are much of a reader, but have you ever read anything by Max Lucado? He's one of my favorite Christian authors, he has this book called Traveling Light, which I think you may find helpful to look through :)

Burgandy - about 1 month ago: I haven't read Max Lucado. I was reading some other things and they are not helping. I hurt so bad and don't want to burden you or others. I am seeing a wonderful guy, but sometimes he doesn't realize some of his thoughts about...things really hurt me. I don't like to say anything because I don't want to make him feel bad, yet right now issues that others would not give a second thought about, hurt me and push me deeper into hiding. I have learned a way to hide my pain from others. Here it seems safe, because no one knows my name or what I look like. Michele, You have enough on your plate, so please don't worry about me. You need to take care of yourself and your mom. Thank you for taking time for me and my silliness and self pity....
FaithinGod
FaithinGod New Mexico

"Our Heavenly Father, thank you for your unconditional love. I pray that you would speak to Burgundy's heart and to her soul and bring her to the conclusion that she was wrongly hurt by others that were lacking in something themselves; as well as lacking in a relationship with you O'Father. Remind her Father that she is one of your children. She needs to please no one but you dear Lord. Her worth is very valuable to you. I pray that she would turn over her this situation to you and that you would heal her emotionally, physically, and spirtitually. I pray also for her children that you would protect them and guide them and I pray that this family will focus on you and that your light will shine upon their lives. In your most holy and powerful name, Jesus Christ, I pray. Amen."

Burgandy - about 1 month ago: FaithinGod, thank you for your words of encouragement and prayer.