As you read all my request it seems like my life has taken big twist and turns i have my faith in the lord everything happens for a reason and he knows where i am going but I feel i am in despair.
My dad died on 1/17/08 he waited until i got there and when he heard my voice he took his last 3 breathes and past away within minutes. He gave me closure because i know that was the man on this earth that truly loves me. He had a talk with me weeks before his surgery with all the things he wanted me to do out of life that i thought had gave him gried such as the concert pianoist that didn't upset him but me still dealing with my daughter's father which i haven't since he left on 6/30/07. I feel i fail him i told him before he died that i am sorry and i will do make him proud and when we see each other again he will tell me i did good. This is the problem my daughter's grandmother on her dad's side reads the obiturary on the daily (she looks at funerals as a social place) I had come to her months ago to discuss her role in my daughter's life as a grandmother. My daughter doesn't attend regular school due to emotional trauma her dad has place on her. I discuss with her grandmother how i didn't have bitterness towards her or any other family member due to her son's neglect towards my child. Anyway she was more concerned if i can do her taxes and talked about her other son's daughter. When her oldest grandchild is standing there and assumes since my family lives in a good area in the city we are taken care of. To me time is priceless and i remeber my grandmother stories to me and she lived in jamaica WI. My father's last talk also included me keeping her and myself away from that family because they do not care and they show my daughter a negative influence. So i was very shock and felt violated when her other grandmother came months later at my dad's wake and funeral not to get her respect but to find out who's who in my family and what professions they obtain. my friends escorted her to her car due to my wishes of her not coming to my parents home. She didn't even come to the hospital when my daughter was born 14 years ago and I was in the hospital for a week! now you want to come as grandmother. Her son my daughter's father was in prison/jail while this happen but he has access to the newspaper and he found out that my dad died. He has not contacted me or his daughter since 6/30/07 but felt compelled to write now and it was so lame writing the usual when he's at his second home trying to find out between the lines if i am involved with someone and if he can come back home. I replied not to curse him out or in that mater but to reply back to what he wrote and how i felt about him as a person. I told him what his mom did and the talk i had with her and how i decided to cut off my involvment with his family. My daughter is aware of him being her biological father becuase my dad was truly her daddy. When she becomes an adult and she choices to be involved with him and his family i do not care. he got release on 2/8/08 we did not have any contact with each other and i am pleased. He never released the keys when he did leave and honestly my landlords did not want me to change the locks. it's oblivious he has been watching us because on 2/16 me and my daugher came home sat evening to find out he came in the house and stole her mattress to her bed. He didn't take anything else out of the house. I was so mad and vow i will never get that mad again because i scared myself. I could of killed him that night and wouldn't of care. My daughter has gone thru some much trauma already my dad's death really did affect her and I am still grieving myself. I called his mom and i went off i went off about everything these last 14 years i went out of my way to have my daughter be part of the family and she never called just to say hello or even happy birthday. There are only certain people that have the keys: my mom, myself, my daughter the landords and him. none of these people will steal the mattress execpt for him. She claim she would have him bring the bed to her house. which at this point my daughter was not going to sleep on that. she also told me he was coming over the next day for a dinner. I do not want to see him nor am I going back to her home. my dad worried for me and my daughter due to the things he did and the things he should of done but didn't. and he should be rolling in his grave due to her son stealing his granddaughters bed. I have changed my number because i want a fresh start and she complain how i have to call back because she has no number to contact me funny my parents live in the same house since we moved to NC in 89 and the phone number is the same as well and my last name "mulvaney" is not common everyone that has that last name in the white pages is family. Well i decided to move and I did on 2/21. I happen to go on my deck on 2/24 to make sure everything is off the deck and he placed the mattress under the deck which we place in the dumpster my daughter refuses to take the mattress which i didn't force her to. My mother is so concerned that he might of watched me and found out where i moved. I just pray that my dad is watching over me and my daughter and I am bless that god brings me my husband I trully want a family and I want to make my dad proud.