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clarat1
clarat1 Fairborn, OH

Pregnant daughter in abusive relationship

My daughter, Joy, is 6 months pregnant. This time last year she was in Bible School and living for Jesus. Last June, she met a young man, freshly out of the Navy, who stole her heart and I guess, her common sense. Now she is out of church, not going to school (Bible College Anyway) and engaged to a man who is abusive. A few nights ago I was praying for her and I had a vision of her being very pregnant and being thrown to the ground. It is obvious that both of them need to find God. This was a disturbing image, to see her in this vision which leads me to beleive that my suspions that he was abusing her were correct. I have seen bruises on her arms and a rug burn on her face. Her ribs where bruised when we went for the ultrasound a few weeks ago. I know that God can protect her and can bring her back into a relationship with Him. I know that He can save her fiance, Travis, too. I talked to her yesterday and told her how concerned I was about everything and she told me that she feels like she has gotten herself into a position that she can not get out of. I of course told her that she did not have to marry him or even be a part of his life other than the fact that he was going to be her baby's father. She told me I would like that since I never liked him anyway. That is her point of view, but I asked her if she would like a man who treated her daughter the way that he did and she did not answer. I asked her if she intended to raise her daughter without God. She told me that she wanted to go to church but that Sunday was the only day that they had off work at the same time. I know that she is very obsessive about Travis and that part of the problem is that she is very fearful that he is cheating on her. She became too attached too quickly, and really did not know him at all. I think she is afraid to let him go because she does not know how she will make it without him. I see her very upset a lot of the time and know that it is not good for the baby either. (Until she met him, she lived up to the Name I gave her of Joy) I love her so much. And, of course it just breaks my heart that she is going through this. God is able to do it all much better than I can even ask. But, I just can't deal with this and my nieces coma and my current diagnosis with liver damage from a surgery a few years back where they had to scrape my nearly gangrenous gall bladder off of the liver. There are so many other things that are happening right now that there is not enough space to put them here. Please pray that my unborn granddaughter,and my sweet Joy will be protected from her soon to be husband, Travis, and that God will lead her into a wise decision concerning this relationship. I am praying that he will either get right with God or get out of her life. I want for them to be a family. What I am sure God would want. But, I want them to be living for God, or at least have some hope that he will eventually turn to God and not continue to abuse Joy and possibly even my soon to be, granddaughter. I was an abused child and I can not stand the thought of my granddaughter having to live with an abusive father too. I can not stand the thought of her watching as her daddy beats on her mommy or even dare to think that he might harm her the way I was harmed. All that is within me cries that experiences like this will never happen to my babies. Father, hear my hurting heart. Hear my pleas to rescue them from the attack of Satan on their life in the form of this abuse. Cancel the authority of Satan's lies and shatter the stronghold of obsession and compulsion that keeps Joy bound to this man and his ungodly actions. Give her wisdom and open her eyes to the truth of the situation. Give her strength to stand up to him and to once and for all make a solid decision to either leave him or insist that he get help before they get married. Give me peace so that I can endure the wait for the answer to my prayers for this situation. Bring both of them to a place where they acknowledge you as Lord and Savior and make them aware of and desirous for You and all that You have to offer. Bind them to your mind, your will and your ways. Crush the authority of rebellion and abuse. Crush the authority of word curses. Crush the authority of generational curses especially the authority of abusiveness that is so prevalent in our family. Crush the authority of Satan and his lies. Crush the authority of any soul tie that is in opposition to a relationship with Christ and the fulfillment of their destiny. Cover them with annointing, and with the blood of Jesus Christ who purchased our redemption so that we would not have to live a life afflicted by abuse, sickness, disease, mental illness, and afflictions, You have set us free already. Let Joy walk in that freedom and be set free from this attack on her and her unborn daughter's life. Cover them with your life, your light, your faith, your truth, your favor, your direction, your provision, your understanding and wisdom, your grace and mercy, your hope, love, joy and peace. Cover them with every good and perfect gift and deliver them from any and all obstacles that stand in the way of complete surrender to you in every area of their life. Thank you Jesus for your sweet grace and soothing peace. Thank you for others who are believing with me that there is nothing too difficult for you. In Jesus Name, Amen

Update - 3 months ago:

Joy is loosening her grip on this relationship a bit. Not spending every waking minute with Travis. Tonight I learned that his brother, who lives with him is a registered child sex offender. This is upsetting. This family needs God badly. I am concerned now that there is a lot of abuse going on in this family and do not want any of it to touch my babies. God please continue to bring my daughter under subjection to your will and crush the authority of Satan and his lies that hold her bound to a relationship with Travis. My heart is so torn between praying for this family to come to you, which I know is what you want, and the other part of me that wants to remove the fear of this abuse by just removing them from our lives. Do not let me walk in fear, but, in faith, believing that you are able to bring your salvation and your restoration to them and that this is my mission field, to see my granddaughter's father's family living for you. Give me the opportunity and the committment to work this out with your help and your love. In Jesus Name, Amen

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Burgandy

Clara, I am praying for your daughter. I was abused in my childhood and my adulthood, so I understand your concern. Again, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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GOD YOU HAVE A MOTHER THAT HEART IS SOFT ENOUGH TO PRAY FOR THE MAN THAT IS BEATING HER BABY. GOD BLESS HER RIGHT NOW BECAUSE SHE COULD HAVE BEE SELFISH AND WISHED ILL THING ON HIM BUT INSTEAD SHE IS PRAYING FOR HIS SOUL. GOD WE KNOW THAT IS NOT HIM BUT THE SPIRIT THAT IS USING HIM. WE KNOW THAT THE ENEMY IS TRYING TO DESTROY HIM BUT WE BIND THAT SPIRIT AND EVERY TRAP THAT HE IS TRYING TO CREATE. LORD I PRAY THAT YOU MINISTER TO BOTH OF YOUR LOST SHEEP BECAUSE THE ENEMY DESIRES TO SHIFT THEM LIKE WHEAT BUT AS YOU DID FOR PETER, SAY A PRAYER FOR THEM TO YOUR FATHER. INTERCEDE ON THEIR BEHALF