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HopeRestored
HopeRestored United Kingdom

Child abuse trauma- am confused and scared

Lord, i need you to comfort me during this time of sorrow and desperation. I want so much to know that you hear my cries of pain and anguish. I try to continue forgiving my abusers, but I struggle to feel that my pain is worth your time or attention. I end up feeling resentful sometimes, because other survivors have had their hurts acknowledged and validated by you, and although I am glad for them, I ache inside for that validation too. Just because the most harmful incidents were afflicted on me by a Christian parent, doesn't make it any less hurtful. I still face temptations to hurt myself to deal with the anger, although i am no longer truly wanting to die, i sometimes feel like i wil explode carrying all this anger and bitterness around. My Psychiatrists can give me pills, and advise me on managing the personality disorder, anxiety attacks etc , but only you can heal the hurt in my heart. I refuse to give in to cutting myself again, but i would love an outlet for the anger.
I cannot understand why there is truly a part of me which feels like i have no right to grieve or be angry over it, but i am convinced that i am still hurting over the abuse, particularly the emotional and verbal abuse; so many people seem to brush it aside as being less significant than the sex attacks i went through, but i feel like my very identity has been ripped out of me. i know my identity should be in Jesus, as a Child of God, because I now know that I am saved, after years of doubt, but sometimes i feel like there is a vaccuum in my soul of emptiness. i don't know how to explain it really.

Update - about 1 month ago:

i am in a dark place again. i thought that i was heading toward sa breakthrough in this area but i feel completely crushed again. i have been stabbed in the back by a so-called friend AGAIN; i thought he'd changed. He says that there is nothing wrong with me, and that he doesn't believe taht i'm ill, that i'm just faking it.
i went to see an abuse counsellor and got thrown out because they belittled what i said, and i overheard them talking about me before the session and making snide comments. Then they started telling me i should get out more and do voluntary work. i told them that i had done both voluntary work and service in my church, but due to my health i'm finding it hard to cope. i felt so angry, that when they left the room, i took out a knife to cut my wrists with, but one of the counsellors saw me, and they told my CPN, and they agree that am too disturbed for counselling. Yet i know taht the Borderline Personality Disorder and self-harm are caused by the hurts i'm carrying, my Psychiatrist has said as much, but no counselling organisation will take me; only the Psych unit will treat me, and when i start to talk about the abuse the doctors and nurses at the unit just say "I don't want to hear about that.." I don't have many friends i can talk to, and i feel God is angry with me right now. am so scared.

Update - about 1 month ago:

If God is weeping for me, why can't i feel it? am so angry tonight, mostly with myself...i feel like cutting myself, but i know its not the answer.
i don't know what to do. i feel very bad.

Update - about 1 month ago:

feel calmer today, but so many reminders of abuse everywhere. I want to keep on an even keel...

Update - 29 days ago:

wobbly again, but determined to keep pressing on....

Update - 29 days ago:

strugling with my eating problem again. Been having massive binges. i seem addicted to food and feel its controlling me again.

Update - 23 days ago:

feeling anxious today- exams, finances etc. Am still hanging in there, but overwhelmed. So many people out there hurting, and my own strength is sapped by what i'm battling with. i feel useless if i can't help others as much.

Update - 13 days ago:

confused and angry with God. just when i feel am getting somewhere something comes up and pushes me down again. i feel God pushing me down.

Update - 11 days ago:

messaged a close friend something i've been dragging around with me for so long, a horrible sex incident age 5. She hasn't replied to my message, and it was nearly an hour ago. i am worried that she is disgusted with me for it. i hate being ignored when am hurting.

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petcats

Dear Lord, Please help this child and walk with her and make her strong. So all her sorrow may be lifted and bring in the light. In Jesus Name Amen.

HopeRestored - 23 days ago: thanks
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Burgandy

Unfortunatley I eat my way through things too. I understand where you are coming from. I am still praying for you!

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HopeRestored - 23 days ago: thanks
HopeRestored - 23 days ago: have sent a request to join emotional abuse group you suggested on Yahoo.
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rachsarbeka
rachsarbeka Texas

My heart truly goes out to you honey. I know this probably doesn't help you much, but I am so very, very sorry for your tragic childhood. I too am a victim of physical/verbal & psychological abuse by my mother who professed to be a Christian as well. And someone very dear to me as suffered abuse as well and has the same thoughts as you. I know that because the people that harmed us claim to be Christians, we can have the tendency to blame God or be angry at God. But something I try to remember is that everyone has free will to do whatever they choose to do, either right or wrong. Our loving God doesn't force us to do anything. And one day these people will stand before God and answer for the pain they have inflicted on others. I pray, in Jesus name that the Lord will heal you mind, body and soul. That you will feel His loving arms around you and that you will know and feel that He is control of the situation. And I pray that you will believe, in Jesus name, that as it states in Romans 8:37-39, that no matter what we have gone through or will go through, we are more than conquerors in Christ Jesus who loves us. And that neither life nor death, neither demons or angels, neither the present or the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor ANYTHING else in all creation, will ever be able to separate us from the love of the Almighty God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. And also in Romans 8:28-30 it says that we were predestined to belong to the Lord. He chose you before you were even born to be His beautiful child and that in ALL things, whether it be good or bad, works for our good because we have been called according to His purpose. I pray that you will believe this and embed it in your heart. I pray for the Lord to bring divine connections into your life, wonderful people that will show you the love & support you so deserve. I pray all of these things for you in Jesus name. Amen

HopeRestored - 25 days ago: thanks so much. i needed that message. hugs xxxx
mr_dan
mr_dan NM

Dear Lord, reassure HopeRestored that You are not angry and for her not to be afraid. Grant her Your Love and Your peace Father. Only You can restore the joy of innocence she once had. Father You have forgiven her and have made her your Child. Grant her Lord Your Holy Spirit so she will have the power to let you heal her and be rid of her anger forever. Release this spirit of bitterness that she carries. In the Name of Jesus I pray Amen!!

HopeRestored - 25 days ago: thanks. really appreciate your prayers, brother.
GospelOfMark
GospelOfMark USA-OH

Jesus we come to you today thanking you for HopeRestored and for sending her our way. We thank you for making her Your child and our sister. We also thank you for dying on a cross for us to bear our afflictions and for washing away our sins so that we may have eternal life in you. We ask that you rebuke HopeRestored's spirit of infirmity and raise her head up high. Remove all doubt from her about how much you love her and care for her. Assure her that we all love her and care for her as brothers and sisters in Christ. May Satan no longer be able to take that fact away from her with his lies. Lord we ask that you send her many new Christian friends around her home that will love her, pray with her, edify her, disciple her, and spend time doing leisurely activities with her. May she never again know a moment where she is not loved or cared for either in heaven above, or on the earth beneath. We ask and call these things done in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

HopeRestored - about 1 month ago: thanks
petcats

Please do not feel the need to harm yourself futher. I am here to pray with you and for you. The Lord hears you weeping and is holding you right now as we pray. Dearest Lord, Hold your child as she weeps know with every drop that she crys out to you and for you.Lead your Angels from heaven as we speak this prayer. Bless her night and guide her soul sing her softly to sleep Amen. Peace Dear One .Cathy

HopeRestored - about 1 month ago: thank you. i want you to know that i really appreciate your prayers.
petcats

Please do not feel the need to harm yourself futher. I am here to pray with you and for you. The Lord hears you weeping and is holding you right now as we pray. Dearest Lord, Hold your child as she weeps know with every drop that she crys out to you and for you.Lead your Angels from heaven as we speak this prayer. Bless her night and guide her soul sing her softly to sleep Amen. Peace Dear One .Cathy

bry
bry england

Thanks for subscribing to my prayer requests. MUCH appreciated! God is NOT angry with you. No way! Though He IS most certainly sad for you, even weeping for you, I suspect. He longs to enter deeply into your pain and anguish, but you must invite Him into the very darkest areas of your mind/spirit/soul, in order for Him to touch, bless and heal your innermost wounds. He already knows everything that there is to know, but He is far too respectful of you as a human being, and one of His cherished creations, to just barge in uninvited. Just apologise to Jesus, by name, for anything and everything that you think may have offended Him, and then invite Him, by name, into the heart of the darkness within. He's the Lover of your soul, and the Great Physician/Psychotherapist (= literally "soul healer") so He knows EXACTLY how to release and heal the torment. How do I know? Well, after a near-fatal suicide attempt in 1994, which left me on life support (followed by E.C.T) that's what I did (with the help of a Hospital chaplain) and began a journey of recovery out of a lifetime nightmare of multiple symptoms relating to rejection, emotional neglect, self-hatred and addiction. Anyway, I just let God take over, and with the help of long-term christian (and other) counselling, eventually got some genuine balance and self respect for the first time. Life is NOT a bed of roses (it's not meant to be) but it's manageable. Please also take a look at "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale, and then, maybe, start to PRACTICE it's simple principles, based on scripture. It's a life-changing read! Also, why not discover just how much God REALLY does love you by going to www.FathersLoveLetter.com That too is a life-changing experience. O.K., hope these thoughts may help you. God bless and in christian Love from a brother in Christ.... bryan x P.S. Why not just forget all the psychiatric labels and psychobabble about your self. The people you have seen have just been doing the best they can, within a very limited man-made system (I.C.D. and D.S.M. etc.) God is definitely NOT limited, and, in any case, you're an infinitely precious human being, NOT a set of diagnostic criteria!

bry - about 1 month ago: P.P.S. I don't mean abandon or walk out on the carers you have got, I simply mean to take with a pinch of salt the systematised way that they do things. If they are caring for you on ANY level, then God can work through them. But He has an infinite number of ways of getting you well. Prayabout is another one, but, if you are like me, then you need all the help you can get, so keep going with existing supports. "God helps those who help themselves" is very true as well, so ANY self-help you practice will yield great rewards.
Emil
Emil Rosenberg, TX, USA

Dear child of God: First of all, God is love, and knows you're going through a very difficult time. Cling to him, continue to resist the urge to hurt yourself (you're doing well), and don't be afraid. I know you must say to yourself that it must be easy to just say that, but I have to remind myself sometimes, too, since sometimes I too am afraid.

As a child, I was bullied and abused (thankfully not by my family members), and such abused changed me. But the day came when I had to put it behind me, and I started praying for all those people I simply hated. And the hate and bitterness began to fade. Also, after the abuse, I grew up and became a respected man, but one who will stand up for the weak and defend them. So, in closing, I can say I have been able with God's help to use my abuse to help others. May God bless you profoundly and be with you every step of the way. May you also be able to work this out with the help of God. Through Jesus Christ our Lord I pray. (I am going to send a copy of this to Burgandy since I just approved her response to you and think she might want to read it too. I'm here for both of you.)

Burgandy

I am an abuse survivor and I hear your pain. It's easy to feel God is angry at you. He isn't. Yes recovery is very hard, especially when you are not getting the support you really need. I have not gone to counseling for too long because every time I get a cool counselor, they move onto another job. One counselor made me feel super awful. Not like I was recovering. I got sick before going into see her. Yeah, it is really the pits!

I called a pastor who I have known as a friend and asked her to talk to me about God, and give me resources I needed to get over the pain. I have a ways to go, but some days are AWESOME! Some days I want to hide in front of the computer or in my bed so I don't have to deal with the pain. Yes, you are not alone.

I know that sounds cliche' but you have everyone at this prayer site, plus GOD!!!!! I am scared to! Guess what? I think we are scared because we are afraid we may never feel better. Also we feel scared because the only safety and predictability in our lives WAS abuse! At least that is what I am personally discovering. It's not based on any kind of fact, as far as I know. I am sure you have turned to the internet for domestic violence support groups? I think yahoo has one and also another group along those lines. I will look them up tomorrow and post them if you like? Let me know? I have received a lot of support from the members of the groups. It's really wonderful to feel compassion and understanding! Email me if you like? burgandypoet@yahoo.com I have a good ear for listening and would like to give you resources that have started me in a better direction. This site has began to break down my walls and have given me hope! Wonderful Angels on this site!

I am praying for you!

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Burgandy - about 1 month ago: JESUS WILL NEVER TURN HIS BACK ON YOU. Please take care of yourself.
petcats

Don't Be Afraid. God loves you. I know by what you have written you are carrying around alot of sorrow. Let it out. Find a quiet place and go for it. But a safe place.Let God know he can take it. Lord please lift our sister's sorrow and bless her. Give her peace of mind Amen.

anim2007
anim2007 Finland

Lord God wrap your arms around this young women, let her feel your presence and comfort, Lord heal her heart and soul, remove all the bad and anxious feelings from there, Lord let her realize that she is wonderful, that she is precious, that she is innocent, she is your child. Lord help her to forgive to everyone who has hurt her mentally of phycically, help her to forgive herself all the anger and unforgiving feelings. Lord take the burden from her, remove the past shadows from her mind, give her joy and happiness and a new beginning of life, Lord you love her and she loves you, you are her Heavenly Father. Lord take care of your child. Praise to your name. This I pray in Jesus mighty name, amen. Blessings, Ani

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Into_the_Light
Into_the_Light Germany

I stand in complete & powerful agreement with dear HOPERESTOREDS request, Lord. Thanks for Your compassion and Gods bless and miracles for HOPERESTORED and for all those in sorrow or even terrible need. As this world could never ever have enough miracles for the broken-hearted and those in doubt, need, despair and fear I ask from the very bottom of our souls for Your mercy and love and for the care to strengthen our faith as not only you promised a multifold in return but so many of my brothers and sisters promised too for Your answer on their prayers - so please don’t let us run out of strength and courage to serve our fellowmen and please provide us with our survival of all this strenuous spiritual challenges so that no single soul gets lost, so that the evil forces wont be able to destroy all the faith and all the trust we have put in You Lord, please wipe our tears away after all these moments and periods of fear, endurance, struggle and suffering, please give us the relief of our heavy burdens so that we can finally recover from our exhaustion, sorrow and pain, we are very thirsty for Your water Lord, very thirsty. So in the mighty name of Jesus, the Holy Spirit and in Unity of Christ we ask and pray as long for dear HOPERESTOREDS request and her loved ones as it needs to be answered to deeply heal her emotional and spiritual wounds and to cease her pain of the abuse, bless her in all her needs, sufferings, wounds, losses and trials to completely refresh her hope and spirit, to restore and heal her in abundance and always hold her and her loved ones close to you, so that she can let all wounds and worries go in confidence and trust of Your very care and presence for all her needs and may you continue to transform her burdens into blessed stones as shown below for her deep and lasting recovery, may you use her as a channel for all Your awesome power and love for her true nature, so that she can joyfully assist, help, reassure and encourage others in need!
Please precious Lord, supply all and each of us meanwhile with everything that we need to be a most shining personal manifestation of Your divine abundance in love, joy, happiness, forgiveness, compassion, health, wealth, knowledge, gratefulness, hope, trust, confidence, faith, strength, courage. Thank You, Lord for answering this prayer and for taking upmost care of precious HOPERESTOREDS and our needs. Amen and gentle hugs from soul to soul in this powerful circle of prayer, Marcus

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OklahomaTracy
OklahomaTracy del city, oklahoma

Our Most Gracious Heavenly Father -
I ask that you please bless this child of Yours with the knowledge that even though some of us are abused as children, those events do not own us. Help this child to understand their abuser was allowing themselves to be controlled by urges and desires which were not based in You. Help this child to understand Healings are not performed by man; practices, practioners or medicine, but performed by You. Lord, please allow this child to know they are worthy of this life; that You have given them a mission, or missions. Help them to understand their value to Your world; allow them to feel the healing rays of your warm redeeming Light of Love. In Your Most Heavenly Name - Amen

HopeRestored - about 1 month ago: thanks
Burgandy

I understand where you are coming from. I am going through similar issues. I am praying for you and ALL the domestic violence survivors. We all need healing and completeness!

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HopeRestored - about 1 month ago: thanks