Into_the_Light - about 1 month ago: And yes, Andercat, perfectly right, counselling is absolutely a must. And Grant, if I read all the responses of the members here never ever say again that God didnt answer you. At the level of spiritual knowledge you are right now you would be totally unable to hear Gods voice within. So He has no other chance than to use us and other humans to reach your ears and open your eyes.

Into_the_Light - about 1 month ago: Yes, exactly petcat. Its a coping mechanism for severe trauma that unfortunately inevitably triggers the next traumas for example for Tanya. But the fact that it could go all so wrong in thhe griefing process absolutely shows that you are overwhelmed by the pain so please reach out for a mature soul, be it a pastor, a therapist to guide you and Tanya through this pain but please Grant, stop inflicting any further harm on Tanya, beyond doubt enough was already done. Take at least a long break in that affair and collect your senses together as we would say in german. Play the reverse game, how would you feel if she would blame all the time you in hatred and screwing around with the nextbest man? Please imagine that as real as possible so that you get a glimpse what you have done with "your beloved angel". Truly Grant,please stop annihilating Tanyas soul as this has nothing to do with the tiny tiniest bit of love but only with devastating and traumatizing her soul. At least I am glad that you finally somehow seem to wake up and I really pray that you may sincerely find the courage to finally take care of Tanya and the damage done. And be sure that you will never in a billion years have a working relationship with Liz, this I can grant you with 110% certainity, its absolutely impossible to start a relattionship like that, so you dont even loose anything in stoping this affair. You only avoid being responsible for ruining your and their lives. I would call that a superjackpotgain....you already made the first step, now please further walk the line.....