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REOLIVER5670
REOLIVER5670 EVERETT, WA

What Next ?????

Most of you know what happened to my wife. I was able to get her out of jail and we are still going thru the court process. We are working on trying to get her a program. But another disaster has just occured, I just found out a couple of days ago that my wife is having an internet affair, that she is planning on leaving me and moving in with this man.
When I confronted her about it she became extremely angry and bitter toward me. She started accussing me that it was all my fault, If I would have been a better husband this would not have happened. This man fills the emptiness in her heart that I don't. She has not left yet, but spends all of her time on the phone talking to him, many times in front of me. She also spends alot of time chatting with him on the internet and texting him right in front of me.
I am so confused and do not know what to do. I need someone to talk to but have nobody. She is the love of my life and I do not want to lose her. Please pray for God to inter vein and save my marriage. All of you know what I went thru 6 mo ago and my 2 sons. Please, Please pray hard for us.
God answered all our prayers and helped me get her home while we fight her fight in the courts. I do believe there is a reason for this and someday I will understand. I just know that due to my health and the age of my boys I do not know how much more I can handle. I am greatful for the extra time God has given me with her. Please pray that Gods will not be that it ends like this and that she realizes her place is with her family and she will give me a chance to be a better husband.

Update - 6 months ago:

I cant take it anymore, the lies the disappearing and all the deceitfulness. All I ever wanted was to love her. Please pray for me and my family. I do not know how much longer I can hold up.Please God help me!!!!!

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Lord bless this man. Bring him peace, comfort, strength and love. Let him feel your presents. In Jesus' name I pray

memo
memo Los Angeles, CA.

My precious Brother I hope that you are okay... It's been several months since you posted here on prayabout, but I just want you to know that you are in my prayers. I pray and hope that God has restored your marriage and that things are well for you.
God Bless You and your loved ones my precious brother....
I Love You & hope all is well

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genius_gene
genius_gene San Antonio, Texas

We earnestly pray in the name of Jesus, Mary, Joseph and all the angels and saints in heaven that your prayers are answered as you reach out to help others! May God Bless you always!

light4us
light4us Florida

Heavenly Father, we understand that the journey is long and we will encounter much pain and heartaches along the way. We thank Thee for all the prayers that were received knowing that they will be answered at the right and most appropriate time. Lord Jesus, lift up my soul in my despair that I may always remember the gift of children given onto me to cherish and guide into a better life, than the one that Thee have placed me to help me to learn and realize that it is time for a pattern of change. Bless me with Thine wisdom and gentle patience to see and understand how the workings of God is being manifested in my life. In Jesus name we pray for deliverance from all that we no longer need, and for change into all things new.[ Psalm 25, 85 ] Amen! ( When you love something, set it free into the hands of God, if it returns, it is yours forever, if it does not, it was not yours to begin with.)

jbmssekandi
jbmssekandi Kampala Uganda

Almighty Father ! Look upon your servant with favor, remember not his sins of the past but on the faith and trust he has in you, on the prayers of the faithful come to the aid of this family thruogh the mighty name of Jesus Christ your son, Let it be

light4us
light4us Florida

Heavenly Father, the time has arrived for a new beginning and a cleansing of all that is past and without Thine light. Lord, as we lift up our hands to Thee on this day we know in our heart that we have exhausted all efforts and plans to make all right with Thee. Help us to come to realize that this is the time to place the children that we have received and promised to love and care for in the eyes of God, first before all of our needs. Guide and bless us to create a new way and place for our children to grow and receive all our love and understanding about our answered prayers from God. Give us the courage and confidence to stand firmly and make the right decisions to how a family is really supposed to live in the eyes of God, and help us to understand through the love that is already within our heart, that all focus now belong to our children, who are the future light of our way. Lord Jesus, we did not know that when Thine arms opens up to bless our children with love and security, that this is where we shall find our way, through their eyes, into the light of God. Bless this family to make the right choices, to open the way for a long and healthy journey back to a peaceful and loving atmosphere where we can calmly commume with the words of God. [Psalm 27, 60, 97, 98,149] Amen!

Emil
Emil Rosenberg, TX, USA

Dear friend: I realize how difficult your life has become, and ask God to bless you profoundly, that you will not lose faith. I ask for your wife and children, as well, through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

It makes me sad that you're going through this latest traumatic episode. Hang on to our Lord and don't let go. I will continue to pray for you.

REOLIVER5670 - 6 months ago: Thank you very much, read my response to memo for the latest.
Warnnie
Warnnie New Jersey

Heavenly Farther I come to You in the name of Jesus
on behalf of this prayer request. Lord I'm thankful to
know that You are the King of all Kings the Lord of
all Lords and You can do anything but fail all power
is in Your hands. I give You the glory,honor and praise
You said in Your word that when the enemy comes in
like a flood Your spirit will lift up a standerd against him. I pray for this family as the enemy has invaded
their privacy. I pray Lord God Almighty that You would
tare his kingdom down in these people house, in their
marriage, and in their family. I pray Lord God for devine intervention. I pray that You dispatch your angels all around them. I pray that You would rebuke
the devour who came to still that which do not belong
to him. I plead the blood of Jesus Christ over their
body, soul and spirit. I pray and ask Lord that You
would arise and let the enemy be scatterd that is
interfering with this family. I pray and ask that You would open their blind eyes wharever they are blinded.
I pray for their unbelief to believe that Jesus is Your son the Messiah, that if he havent received him that
he would welcome Him into his heart. Lord I know that
You can take care all of our problems. Their is nothing
broke that You cant fix. I pray that You would let this
family see Your salvation. That they have a testimony
for Your glory. I pray and ask these things in the prescious name of Jesus.
JESUS LOVES YOU and God will supply all of your
needs according to His riches and glory by
Christ Jesus. Dont stop praying keep on praying morning, noon and night with love in mind. Love never
fails. Perfect love cast out all fear. Be encouraged
do not give up keep your eyes on God dont look down. Remember Peter. Love You with the love
of Christ he answer prayers.

REOLIVER5670 - 6 months ago: Thank You very much for your prayers and support, You can read my comment to memo for the latest.
cju
cju New Jersey, USA

Please Lord bless and heal reoliver and his family. Please bless and heal this situation and move in his wife to stop this cruel behavior. Please remove all the obstacles here and let reoliver return to good health, please guide his medical team and let him respond successfully to all treatment. Please bless him and his children and grant them all they so need. Please bless and move and heal his wife and stop her from continuing this affair. Please send rescue Lord. Please move in both to be where you need them to be and provide for and protect them all. Please deliver them from these trials. Please st jude st anne st anthony st michael st rita st theresa st peregrine st john st dymphna st joseph and mother mary pray unceasingly for them all. God Bless you my friend and I am so sorry this is happening. you are all in my prayers amen

REOLIVER5670 - 6 months ago: Thank You very much for your prayers and support, You can read my comment to memo for the latest.
kevinprofit
kevinprofit Jacksonville, FL

LOVE IS A CHOICE

Another thing we must understand about love is that it is a choice. True love is not something we trip into and out of easily. God's love for us endures all things and does not change, even when we do. He doesn't love us for measuring up to a certain standard. He loves us because He is love Himself. There is not one thing He does that is not motivated by love. When we fail, He does not reject us, but in compassion reaches out to restore us. Though He sees the hardness, blindness and hypocrisy in our hearts, He still loves us. He loves us enough to not overlook these things, because He knows they will destroy us. He loves us with a consuming, passionate, holy, jealous and gentle love. He loves us so much that he continually offers us forgiveness, comfort, encouragement, peace and joy. Finally, Jesus showed that He loves us more than His own life when he laid it down His life for us.

Because He loves us in this way, so we also are to love each other. Nowhere is God's love for us better illustrated than in marriage.

"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, that He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things--that she might be holy and faultless. Even so husbands should love their wives as (being in a sense) their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church. Because we are members (parts) of His body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is very great, but I speak concerning (the relation of) Christ and the church. However, let each man of you (without exception) love his wife (being in a sense) his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband--that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him and loves and admires him exceedingly" (Ephesians 5: 25-33, Amplified Bible).

In this verse we see that the union between man and woman is a portrayal of the divine romance between Christ and the Church. The only reason man and woman are attracted to each other and desire to build a life together, is because this principal is true in a spiritual sense. The natural realm is an illustration of the spiritual realm, and all spiritual truths existed long before the natural ones were manifested. In the same that way men and women seek each other to become one, so our spirits are also seeking oneness with God--and He with us.

Just as Eve was brought forth from Adam's side, so the church was brought forth from the wounded side of Jesus. We are "bone of His bone and flesh of His flesh." God is a "family man" seeking to establish a union of love between His son Jesus and His Bride, who is the church. Together, they will rule His creation and bring forth many offspring, just as Adam and Ever were originally commissioned to do.

God hates divorce because it is a perversion of the holy picture of the His Son and the Church. This is also why He hates homosexuality, sexual promiscuity and other sexual and gender-related sins. All of these have their source with the Evil One who seeks to pervert all of God's truths until they are a twisted lifeless shamble of what they once were. When God's truths are twisted, instead of being instruments of life and freedom, they become tools of death and destruction. What can bring us the greatest happiness can also bring us the greatest sorrow. God took a great risk when He put so much power in love. He knew it could both heal--and hurt--us more deeply than anything else He created. Yet, if this is true for us, it is even more true for God Himself. He also, is deeply touched and wounded by love. Yet, because He is willing to risk His very heart for the sake of love, so we must be willing to take that risk as well. He is our example. God's love alone has the deepest power to fulfill us. However, it can only fulfill us to the extent that we use and understand it properly--and we cannot know true love unless we know God.

The most basic principal of true, godly love is this: Love lays down its life for others. "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends" (John 15:13).

This "laying down of our life" can be manifested in many ways. Basically, it includes loving others more than ourselves, thinking of their welfare, honoring them, forgiving them, wanting the best for them, etc. This is to be practiced for both those who love us and those who hate us. Furthermore, this is to be a way of life--not an occasional mood, when we are feeling benevolent towards the world! Love is a deliberate choice.

Generally, the farther away one is from us, the easier it is to love them. We can love them in a broad way. The closer we get to someone however, the more they are magnified to us. We see both their faults and strengths more clearly. It is here that love must become a choice. Will we continue to love them despite their failures, or will we back off? Because marriages are the closest of all relationships, they are also tested the most. If we have found that we are peering at our mate continually through a magnifying glass, it may be time to step back a bit and refocus on the "big picture." Likewise, if all we see is the "big picture" we can lose the intimacy in the foundation of marriage. When we peer closely at our loved ones, their faults are magnified, but so is their beauty as well. We need to continually seek the Lord for His perspective, so we can see the loved one through His eyes of love and mercy. After all, He sees us closer than anyone, and yet still loves us!

By studying God's love for us, we can learn that love takes work, patience, commitment, faithfulness, and the willingness to take a risk. How different from the way the world tells us love is--an effortless, easy emotion! Emotions are a beautiful part of love, but nonetheless, they are only a part. They are the frosting on the cake, the harmony on the melody, the bloom on the flower. They cannot stand on their own, but rest on and grow from something else entirely.

THE SPIRIT OF DIVISION

There is a rampant spirit of division in the earth today that is seeking to destroy not only marriages, but all of our relationships. We must recognize this attack of the enemy and resist it. Satan especially seeks to destroy and belittle marriage, because of its spiritual parallel between Christ and the Church. It is our responsibility to recognize that the real enemy is not each other, but the devil and our own sin. Blaming each other or even our own inability, is the easy way out. Through Christ, we can do all things. He makes us strong where we are weak. He gives us the Holy Spirit to empower us. He gives us tools to overcome the enemy. In short, He gives us all we need. Every time we overcome the spirit of division with love and forgiveness, we bind the enemy and grow stronger ourselves. The following verse is an excellent list of spiritual tools that will overcome any attack of division:

"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing: knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace and ensue it. For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil" (I Peter 3:7-12).

It is understandable how those outside of Christ end up with broken homes, but how sad it is that now Satan is even destroying the homes of God's holy people. Perhaps it is because we have not been taught how to overcome the enemy or die to self. Whatever the reasons, there are many who are on the brink of, or have already suffered the trauma of divorce.

Those in bad marriages should not use divorce as an escape just because they are in an unpleasant situation, but should seek God for the healing of their relationship. The Lord desires to use such circumstances for redemptive purposes. He wants to heal and deliver the partner that is not committed to Him. This is perfect soil for the growth of the fruits of long-suffering (patience), faith and love to take place in the mate who is hurting due to lack of love in the marriage. God's kind of love can overcome in the situation, and a mighty miracle of healing can come to that marriage and home.

Me and my family will continue to pray for your family remember if god wants you together nothing can stop that stay strong and keep in touch

REOLIVER5670 - 6 months ago: Thank You very much for your prayers and support, You can read my comment to memo for the latest.
memo
memo Los Angeles, CA.

My brother.... I am so sorry that you are going through all of this, but please stay strong and keep praying to God for he is the only one who can keep you strong and give you the comfort you need. I will be keeping you in my daily prayers and pray for your wife. Do not give up and just leave your burdens in God's hands and he will make the changes that need to be made, he will direct your wifes paths as long as you trust fully in him.
We all have our moments where things just seem so unfair,but
you know what is beautiful? Just knowing that we have God & Jesus always ready to wrap thier loving arms around us and that they will never abandon nor forsake us and if we put them first in our lifes, and trust fully in them they will take our burdens and turn all things that look so bad into good and just keep praying my brother and do not give up on your wife. Just as he
answered your prayers to get her out of jail, he will help you now
in these hard trying times. I promise I will keep you in my prayers. I'm here for you and most and foremost you have God and Jesus.................
May the Lord bless you and your family..............
In Jesus Mighty Name I Pray..................
AMEN!!!!!!

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REOLIVER5670 - 6 months ago: Memo I thank you very much. You are always so uplifting. My wife becomes crueler each day and still tells me how much she loves this other man and that I am at fault for it. She calls him on the phone and texts him also.She talks to him on the computer and she sees nothing wrong with it.She says I am lucky she has not left to be with him yet. She torments me everytime I do not act or say what she wants.I have no one to talk to and she has even told her family that I drove her to another man.I do not know what to do and do not know how much more I can take of her saying all the horible things. Today I caught her taking an overnight bag when she went to town and when I asked her about it she flipped out and called me everything in the book saying again it was my fault and if I did not stop questioning her about things she was going to leave.She said she was only taking the bag incase she needed it but planned on coming home. You guessed it, she texted me, not even a phone call, and said she was to tired to come home and was going to stay at her brothers for the night.I am an emotional reck and when she saw my tears when I saw the overnight bag she called me a weak person and that is why she fell in love with another man. Please continue to pray for us all. Thank You!!!
memo - about 1 month ago: Sweetheart, your wife is lucky to have such a kindhearted husband. PRECIOUS HEAVENLY FATHER GOD: WITH TEARS IN MY EYES, I PRAY THAT YOU WILL COME INTO MY BROTHER'S WIFES HEART AND I PRAY THAT SHE MAY REALIZE THE GOOD MAN SHE HAS AS A HUSBAND. LORD, I PRAY SHE WILL NOT TAKE HIM FOR GRANTED AND THAT SHE LEAVES THIS OTHER OBSESSION WHICH ONLY COMES FROM satin.. LORD I BIND satin AND ALL HIS EVIL INTENTIONS I PRAY THAT YOU WILL BLESS AND RESTORE THIS MARRAGE.........PLEASE LORD... BLESS MY BROTHER RE-OLIVER AND GIVE HIM BLESSINGS WHICH HE DESERVES................. A BIG SOUL HUG MY BROTHER AND EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE NOT HERE READING THIS RIGHT NOW I KNOW THAT GOD IS GOING TO TOUCH YOUR HEART TO COME AND READ THIS PRAYER AND THE ONE I POSTED ABOVE............ I LOVE YOU.......... YOUR SISTER BECKY................
collheaven
collheaven long beach ca

Lord have mercy and intervene in this situation. Do not allow this woman to run from her problems,but give this man strength to endure whatever happens in his marriage. He loves his wife Lord- she is fed up with her life. Help her to take responsibility for her part in the marriage and please send help for this family in any way you see fit. In Jesus name Amen

REOLIVER5670 - 6 months ago: Thank you so very much, your prayers mean alot to me. It seems that is all I have right now as she has turned so cold against me.
SCSunny
SCSunny Dallas NC

Lord put a hedge of prtection around this heart and mind and I plead the blood of Jesus over this mind, emotion, heart and thoughts. We rebuke Satan and all his plans in the name of Jesus and we send those dark spirits into the outer darkness and never to return. Restore relationships now Lord. You promise that love never fails so we are not taking no for an answer. Lord You hear the cry of this heart and I am praying and agreeing that You will answer this prayer and give the desires of the heart as You promise in Your Word. You will make a way where there seems to be no way. In Jesus name. Amen

REOLIVER5670 - 6 months ago: Thank You for your prayers and support.
Sam756
Sam756 Houston, TX

I stand in agreement, Lord surround our Brother with Angels for protection and remove all hinderances attacking his life. Father bless his wife to realize what she is doing is wrong and bless her with salvation. By faith, we believe Lord you are intervening in this situaiton in Jesus powerful name, Amen!! "For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace." (Rom. 6:14)

REOLIVER5670 - 6 months ago: Thank You for your prayers and support, please continue to pray for us.