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BBrown42
Dillsburg, PA
Protection and Guidance for Abused Daughter
May God protect and guide my oldest daughter, Amanda. She is 21, married and has a two year old son. As I have suspected for some time. She is in an abusive marriage with a 28 year old control freak who mentally abuses her daily and has physically abused her as well. At this time she is here with me and her sister and brother. We are the only family she has and rarely gets permission to visit us. However, due to what appears to be a mental breakdown, I was able to pick her up for the weekend. However, the husband decided today that she had to speak to him on the phone for control purposes - I did not allow and telephoned police for his threats to me. It is her decision whether to go back or not tomorrow. Without drugs or alcohol her husband Caleb rages uncontrollably over anything. He must have total control over her and has forced her out of college part time and degrades her daily. The physical abuse can longer be hidden and the mental abuse is quite evident. Her confidence and self esteem - gone; let alone she second guesses anything and must check with him. My confident, beautiful, gifted child is almost gone. ANY PRAYERS FOR MY PRECIOUS INTELLIGENT BEAUTIFUL LOYAL DAUGHTER WHO HAS SUCH A KIND HEART WOULD BE DEEPLY APPRECIATE BEYOND WORDS. God Bless.
Update - 5 months ago:
Amanda has contacted her supervisor for a few days off work. Her and her husband work in the same building. I will ensure she gets counseling tomorrow. Amanda is slowly coming around and strengthening some mentally without contact. I have her cell phone and have withheld the threats and control tactics he is using on her (their son). He went from threats to promises at least for now. For the moment she is safe and I am very grateful for another day with her and pray that she will mentally come back. She has no self esteem and is withdrawn and at times appears regressive in age. Amanda was a gifted child; mature, intellegent, beautiful with a kind and compassionate heart towards all. She is gone. I want my daughter back and her hopes and dreams. She misses her son rightly and physically is dealing with her rheumotoid arthritis and depression. May God Protect Heal and Guide his child. In Jesus Mighty Holy Name. AMEN!
Update - 5 months ago:
I wish I had better news to report. Yesterday I took my daughter, Amanda, to York County Courthouse to file a PFA against her abusive bully husband Caleb. She was told by the PA Coalition Against Domestic Violence that she could file in either York County (where I live) or Dauphin County (where she resides and the incidents took place). Unfortunately, whatever judge that review the application for the PFA said No. The caseworker in the PFA office suggested that she file in her own county of Dauphin. The caseworker originally had that concern (jurisdiction) and was afraid that a judge may kick it out.
Most heartwrenching is Amanda talked to Caleb and you know the rest - classic textbook case of domestic violence and the promises.....talking to a pastor and counseling ..etc. Her initial reaction was he wanted to be civil and she wanted to just talk to him and wanted him to agree to - a 2 month separation; he goes to anger management counseling; she will go to her own counseling and she wanted her son every weekend or other weekend.
Apparently they talked on the phone and she didn't even tell me until something came up very late last night and she said Caleb is picking me up in the morning. WOW! Ouch! I can only pray that God keeps her safe or at least alive. Its not that I don't believe God can change Caleb; but from what I have seen and experienced in life combined with the text book and classic symptoms - it is highly unlikely he is ever going to change. I printed the website info for my daughter - unreal - she can literally check off the signs of abuse - hello? it states that domestic violence is not an anger management issue; the control and manipulative tactics by the abuser are verbatim what she is experiencing and has been for 2 years all but a few - they are exact and on time.
I had to tell her brother and sister this morning on the way to school. They both love their sister and are very worried about her. They pray for her and asked their friends at church on Sunday for prayer for Amanda.
It is out of my control. I have no say or choice I know. I wanted to update you and thank you for your prayers. I know you all understand the love a mother has for her child and how deeply you feel their pain and want to protect them.
Thank you for being my friends and supporting me in standing up for my daughter. Have a blessed day!
ONLY GOD CAN PROTECT THIS CHILD PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY. Heavenly Father, In the Name of Jesus - please send your Holy Spirit to protect this precious child; may You give her courage and wisdom to make the tough choices necessary to remove herself from this dangerous situation. I thank you for Amanda; her love, intelligence and compassion. She is your child and I claim her for your kingdom. In Jesus Name. AMEN
Update - 4 months ago:
Unfortunately my daughter is still with the bully husband. She was recently down to visit only briefly with a bruise on her face! Of course no response or explanation to my inquiry. It saddens me that her life is being thrown away and she is treated like a puppet. She called yesterday from the bathroom to inquire about her sister; but had to go because her husband was coming and she was supposed to be getting a shower. How pathetic! Talk about control. She is (was) physically beautiful and has a beautiful spirit inside; very intelligent and pursuing her college education ceased. She goes to work with hubby and home; no friends; just his family and little contact with me, her sister and brother. She is only 21. She is an adult and deserves a life. I still pray that she is mentally able to hang in there and God will protect her mind body and spirit.
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onelmichele
Roseville,Michigan
Precious Lord I pray that you can hear the prayers, the cries of the heart for this wonderful woman and her daughter. Jesus I pray that you intercede in the life of this precious child of God. Your Child Lord. Please breathe life into her, give her strength to make it through each day, to stand on her own two feet and never accept nothing short of being treated with respect. Lord I pray that you can move in this relationship, help convict this man's heart of the way he is controlling his wife like property. At 21 years of age, a woman should not be worrying about surviving or making secret phone calls, I pray Lord that you would do some awesome things in the life of this family, protect them, care for them and really make life worthwile. Please bless my dear sister in christ, giving her the courage and strength to help her family, and daughter and to hold on to her faith that you will never forsake or leave them. Jesus your love is unfailing, you have so many plans for each of us, help us to reach the goals that you have predestined for our lives. Keep their spirits high, and their hearts full .Bless this family Jesus. Amen.
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Lord I lift this family up before You. Please guide them, keep them, and protect them. Wrap your arms around each one of them and heal them. Please pour out your blessing and guidance on then. In Jesus Name, Amen.
BBrown42,
I hope things improve for your and your daughter. I know firsthand, it's a hard decision to break from an abusive relationship, especially when they are your spouse and you love them, and when there is children involved it makes it harder.
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Just Floating By and wanted to Say "Hi" How are You and Your Daughter Doing? I Pray all Is Well and that God is Blessing Your Life and Your Family Amen. Oh I have not Forgotten My Prayer For a Charming, Tall, Handsome Gentleman to Enter Your Life. {Big Smile} How is that Prayer Energy Going? Just Checking { Big Smile , With Wicked Laughter } Amore, Kathleen
BBrown42 - 4 months ago:
My dearest petcats thanks for thinking of me. I wish I had better news; however, life has been dark and getting darker. I know I should be praying and praising and repenting of anything and everything. I have no idea what or how; but just every turn is a closed painful door. Funny you mention my daughter, Amanda! What timing. She called about an hour ago crying - please stay by the phone she may need me to come and get her. I remained calm and no problem and no questions asked. I am on my way 24/7. My heart is racing - she hasn't called; and didn't answer my call or text. Bully husband probably took the phone from her. I was a heart beat away literally from a dream job and missed it. I put resumes out 24/7 everyday. Have to fight for my unemployment; trying to sign up for college and obtain my BA. I have absolutely no income at all. Just moved in and first months rent check bounced! I wish I had family - it sucks to just be on this earth sometimes alone - me and kids; and boyfriend Scot- he has extended family out of state not close anyhow. So, when I muster it up I say "Jesus please pray for me" and God I am very sorry for whatever I have done and repent of anything and everything. I need a miracle that only You can provide. I am lost and in a downward spiral. I do not understand - I do not lie, cheat, steal, and help all in my path to a fault. I try not to judge anyone. Obviously, I am missing the mark and must do better. My loyalty and dedication and heart isn't good enough. I smoke and currently fornicate. The plan was when my long awaited divorce from the totally MIA non child support paying Mr. Brown was final I would marry Scot to do right with God. I have no idea what to do or where to turn and fight the depression and lack of hope. I think of you often and hope you are well. I know you have had some valleys this year yourself. I so appreciate your friendship and kindness of prayers. I hope God is blessing you sister abundantly with all the peace, love, and blessings from heaven!!! I only am on the pc for jobs and reading the news. If you think of me please send up a prayer I will try to pray again. I feel lost and I need found or just a miracle breakthrough. I have a great resume and background! I promise. What is the problem? I have NEVER not been called for an interview or not gotten a job I interviewed for. Ok not alot of jobs in 20 years. I don't bounce jobs. Please take care. God must have some plan or I guess I may need wiped out and start over. If so what a shame. I don't know what to do with the kids - I even looked at website for foster care. There is no where for them or me to go we literally have no one. GOD BLESS SISTER AND THANK YOU FOR THINKING OF ME.
petcats - 4 months ago:
Dear Heart, Did I not Come into Your Life at this Point a few short Months Ago. What happened with Your Job? You Do realize that so much of what your belief is right now, is untrue! Making Love to the Person you love is not a sin. It's Rather Fun! {Big Smile Wicked Kathleen !} Really God knows all and Smoking is bad for good health, but not a sin. Do you have a friend that the children might stay with until you can get on your feet? Please think this over. My Goodness Foster Care you would not want to lose them forever and there are many heartbroken children there already. Not Wise Choice. As I know you are having to cope with much. But your Daughter must free herself from this man. Nothing Good will come from that. Please try as much as you can to Pray or Pray here and we will lift it to God. Don't Give up or in. God loves you.You are a Wonderful Loving Person. Love, Kathleen
BBrown42 - 4 months ago:
I am trying to stand firm and not look at the circumstances. It is not wise to give in and my children have good hearts and potential as people to contribute to society. I just am boxed in with no where to turn. My job..politics..I was off 3 days very ill with bronchities and went in late 1 day WITH a migraine and was terminated. The Senator has done MANY too numerous to count very wrong. She was very abusive to all and still is the same. So while it was a job; I was devasted to be terminated the first time in my life; but I will not have to be abused anymore at work. I KNOW God will contend with the Senator. I worry about my oldest terribly and now the rest of us. I will make myself come back to the site instead of worrying with depression. I must act on the word and somehow believe all will be well. It is difficult in the physical realm when you know you live by truth, love, and kindness to all and cannot understand the ugliness around us. Thank you very very much for your encouragement. It means alot to me and my survival spiritually and mentally. I haven't been praying; but giving up which is not me. Love, Peace and Blessings Always kathleen!
petcats - 4 months ago:
Good Then We shall Stand Together ! I shall Reurn. Love, Kathleen
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SilenceOfHeart
USA
Dear Lord,
I pray this day for Amanda. Please lift her depression and guide her to safety. Instill within her confidence and wisdom as to how best to deal with her current life situation. Please also Bless and protect her young son. Through Christ, Our Lord, AMEN.
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Emil
Rosenberg, TX, USA
Dear friend: I support your daughter's decision to stand strong, with your help and God's, and not let her husband abuse her; however, is her son still with her ex? Can you get him out of there? I pray that God continues to comfort and guide your daughter and you. May he protect all of you, and your grandson, and may he touch your son-in-law's hardened heart and heal it. Through Jesus Christ I pray.
BBrown42 - 5 months ago:
Emil - thank you for your prayers. Please continue to stand with me in prayer. I have no family but my 3 children. Amanda went back to the bully this morning. She missed her son. Caleb is a large boy (27 yrs old) 5'10" 260 lbs. He will never allow his son to go anywhere ever! It would mean a severe beating or death. In my heart I know it is a matter of time and her punishment will be severe on his next anger rage because she left and did not speak to him for several days and all without his permission. He has her isolated. Her brother and sister are young teens and are very worried about her. We only have each other. May God Protect Her and Keep Her In the Shadow of His Wings of Safety and his grace and mercy be abudant in Jesus Mighty Holy Name! AMEN. This is heartwrenching to see her spirit gone; a gifted childs mind is gone and her hope and dreams gone at 21. Let alone her life is at stake at the mercy of the husband's next anger rage. Please pray.
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faydralove
long Island New york
Dear BBrown: I am very sorry for your daughter,I am happy she is with you,I am a little confused if I'm not mistaken is the child with him? and if so Why? I pray that she comes to her sences and does not go near this man right now,he has really done a number on her,and that poor baby that had to see and hear this,I hope you can inpower her to think clear and realize what this Boy has done to her,I say Boy because he is not a man,A man doesn't bully a women and a child,keep her close to you and I hope that baby is with her or your family,you don't know what he is capable of doing to them just because, he is out of his mind,I pray she stays safe and that Our dear Lord give this battered girl the strength and courage to stop this now and keep away from him,I ask this through Christ Our Lord Amen,
God Bless Your Family
Debbie xoxoxoxox
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rachsarbeka
Texas
I am praying for your daughter and grandson. I too was in a very controlling & abusive marriage. I left 5 yrs ago & divorced him. However, he has still tried to be in my life as much as possible. In fact, Child Protective Services has recently investigated him for child abuse against our 6 yr daughter, Rebekah. (I submitted a prayer request detailing everything). What makes matters worse is he's a police man. I too, like your daughter, had no self esteem and was cut off from everyone. It takes great courage to do what your daughter is doing. She is very, very blessed to have a wonderful mother like you. I had no one supporting me at all except the Lord. I also know how traumatic this is for children. I will keep them in my prayers. Please pray for my little girl, Rebekah and me as well. Thank you & God Bless
BBrown42 - 5 months ago:
Thank you for your prayers and sharing your experience. I did print your prayer and show my daughter. Heartbreaking news today...she left this morning and went back. He got her on the phone last night with the temporary promises and she misses her son deeply. She is only 21. May God hear our prayers and my cry and intercession for my daughter's physical mental and spirital safety. I don't know that she could mentally withstand the isolation and degrading again let alone the physical aspects will be more severe because she had the nerve to leave for a few days without permission and refused to speak to him for 3 or 4 days. In Jesus Name I pray. AMEN. God Bless You and Your Precious Daughter. May God Protect You and Bless You all of your days!
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bighill
Poquoson, Virginia
Lord, may BB's daughter be surrounded in divine Love, Grace and protection. May she be completely delivered from this horrid and abusive situation. I also ask for complete healing on all levels of her being. May she be restored to the radiant, gifted soul that she always has been. May she bathe in Your Light and deep Peace, Lord. Through Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit I pray. Amen.
BBrown42 - 5 months ago:
God Bless You for your prayers. Words cannot express my deep appreciation. Only God can protect this precious child that has such potential and compassion and love. She returned to the bully today. He got her on the phone last night and at 21; missing her child; she desperately wants all to be well I know. May God's Holy Spirit lead Amanda, guide her and protect her from permanent damage or death. He successfully killed her spirit and mind. I barely got her back on her feet mentally and she is gone. In Jesus Hands and Name I commit Amanda unto thee Heavenly Father please hear my cry and pray to thee. AMEN
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memo
Los Angeles, CA.
Precious Heavenly Father God:
I pray that you will be with my sister bbrown's daughter and that you will bring peace, comfort and complete healing to her precious daughter. I pray that soon she will be able to be with her son and that you will be her shield and protection in all times of worry and fear. For you O Lord are our shield and comfort in times of distress.
IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME I PRAY................
AMEN......................................
BBrown42 - 5 months ago:
Dear Sister - thank you ever so kindly for your prayers. Unfortunately, my daughter has returned to the large abusive bully husband. She is only 21 and missed her child and wants to believe her husband's promises. Please continue to stand with me. Only God can protect my precious daughter. In Jesus Name. Blessings, Peace & Comfort to you and your family always.
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aSTAR4u
KY
Dear Precious Heavenly Father...We just lift up our daughters to you just now o LORD...similar situations and you know their sweet gentle hearts and why it is so hard for them to say NO ..O LORD you brought me out of 12 years of spousal abuse and if you can do it for me, Precious LORD i KNOW you are still on THE THRONE !!!!
Put your arms around them and guide and direct them and get them & their babies out of this situation ,,,Lord , if it be your will, we ask that you do so immediatley before more damage besets them IN JESUS NAME
BBrown42 - 5 months ago:
Thank you ever so kindly for your prayers for my precious beloved daughter. It is never our Heavenly Father's will that any of His children be abused in any way. Your prayers and those of my sisters and brothers in Christ will be the difference and save my daughter's life and I am forever grateful more than words could ever express. I have no family but my children the younger two are teenagers. So, my daughter only has us. We stand in support of her no matter what and will stand and believe God for her safety mentally and physically. God Bless You for your continued prayers. I will post an update and the situation progresses. I know it will not be an easy journey for any of us. God Bless You and Your Family!
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wdc922
Sugar Land, Texas
Please God - watch over Amanda. Giver her the courage and will power she needs to stay with her mother. Protect the family Dear God - because when Caleb realizes that he is losing his grip on Amanda, he will rage out of control. Holy Father, You already know how this situation turns out. I pray Father that you guide Amanda and her family to safe place until Amanda can think clearly again. In Jesus precious name - Amen.
BBrown42 - 5 months ago:
God Bless You for standing with me interceding for my precious daughter. May God's peace and love protect us all. Your prayer is quite intuitive and I thank you from the bottom of my heart truly! God Bless You Abundantly!
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Sam756
Houston, TX
Father I stand in agreement and ask for your intervention in this situation. Lord your words says, the enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy--please don't let the enemy have victory over our Sister. Lord give her wisdom and a strong mind to remove herself from a toxic environment, not just for herself, but the child. We unite in faith and believe Lord you are moving in this sistuation in Jesus powerful name, Amen!!
BBrown42 - 5 months ago:
Sam756 - God Bless You Abundantly today and forevermore and thank you from the depths of my heart. Amanda's only hope is God's protection and wisom in this war for her life - mentally and physically. She is mature; but only 21 and beaten down. It is clearly a game of manipulation and control - ouch! I hurt for her as well as her sister and brother. I must believe that God is working and moving in this situation for the good of His children according to Jeremiah 29:11. Again, thank you for standing in prayer with me. My children are all I have in this world. I may only be 5' tall and have two teenagers; but I can pray! In Jesus Name We are Loved, Whole, and Blessed by our Father God. Amen
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Dear BBrown, My heart weeps with tears for you and your Daughter. You most try what ever means are available not to allow Such Hurt and Harm to come to your Daughter even if it means standing against her husband. For I see only Sorrow if he does not get help. I pray from my soul that Amanda and her children are protected from this moment on and all the days that follow. You know, I come to be fond of you., Since I came upon your first Prayer. You were thinking of ending things and I felt your Sorrow so deeply. Once again, Sorrow has come upon you and your family. But you have Grown and Your are Stronger So stand up. I will stand will you and for you in prayer.Your Friend Kathleen
BBrown42 - 5 months ago:
Kathleen, my dear sister, I am very thankful for your friendship, prayers, and support. I have grown very fond of you as well and think of you often. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for standing with me in agreement that God will protect and guide my daughter and grandson. She was a gifted child, beautiful inside and out. Unfortunately, she made errors in judgement and married at 18. It is never God's will for His children to be abused, manipulated and controlled. May God Bless You for your kindness and willingness to stand with me for my daughter and grandson. In Jesus Mighty Holy Name No Weapon Formed Against Us Shall Prosper. The enemy has no power over us. May God give His wisdom and His Holy Spirit reign over my daughter. AMEN
petcats - 5 months ago:
Dear God, Please Protect these children and their Loving Mom Amen. God you have given them a loving and strong woman to call Grandmother. I pray She will continue to see what a wonderful person she is and how you love this child of God Amen. God bless you Dear one, Your My Proud and Loving Sister in Prayer Kathleen
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Kelly_Gabrielle
philippines
LORD, MAY YOUR HANDS TOUCH CALEB.. THROUGH OUR PRAYERS MAY WE LEAD HIM TO YOU... MAY HE BECOME A LOVING HUSBAND AND FATHER... PLS LET HIMGROW IN YOUR HOLINESS.. PLS BIND THIS FAMILY WITH LOVE AND RESPECT. IN JESUS NAME. AMEN.
BBrown42 - 5 months ago:
Heavenly Father I thank you for your love, protection, and wisdom. May your hand touch Caleb in a mighty way. We know that you contend with those that contend with us. As your children we have a covenant right to live in peace according to your word. Father God, the power of the tongue holds life and death. We speak life into Amanda's life and bind the evil that is coming from her husband which is bringing mental and physical death to her. In Jesus Name we claim Your victory over the enemy as for Amanda is Your Child. AMEN!
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